Maybe. Or maybe OP is queer and expecting special treatment from the queer communities that use Matrix, and not getting it? It very well could be that OP is a jerk, OP’s co-maintainer is a jerk, or significant portions of those queer communities are jerks. It’s hard to say, but I also find it a bit peculiar than “queer” is mentioned three times, and pretty much all of the links related to the project are queer-related (transfem.dev, for example).