• huppakee@lemm.eeEnglish
    1·
    1 month ago

    But I think that’s not a weird thing for a parent (not saying it is normal to not want to speak to your child because they are different then you expected, or to dislike them for being who they were born to be).

    • AlexisBlackbird@lemmy.caEnglish
      14·
      1 month ago

      Yeah, the phenomenon isn’t unique to trans people if viewed through the lens of expectations for their child. It just takes on a much more extreme reaction/framing when transphobia is involved.

      I don’t begrudge my mom for feeling sad about realizing I’m not who she wanted me to be, but those aren’t feelings you should voice to your child who is already struggling.

      • huppakee@lemm.eeEnglish
        5·
        1 month ago

        No totally fair, it’s not your fault she had those expectations as well. Any parent should be supportive of their child and I agree you are not the one she should bother with those feelings. Wish you the best.

      • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
        1·
        18 days ago

        i would certainly begrudge my parents a little bit for wanting me to be anything more specific than “happy”

        like it’s not the worst thing ever but wtf mom, really?