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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Mission-Ad8815 on 2023-10-06 13:44:41.

So we have two daughters 12 and 14. Let’s call them Emma and Abby. Both girls gets 10 dollars a week to use for what ever they want. Now Abby has learned to save, instead of buying whatever she wants she will save up and get nicer things. She just got a lamp that throws stars on the ceiling.

Emma doesn’t save she will buy really cheap things that just kinda break after a bit. I have explained this so many times to her but she wasn’t getting it so I am letting her learn it by experience.

Back to the lamp, Emma saw it and was really upset she didn’t have one. This turned into her being upset that her sister has nicer stuff. I sat her down and explained that she was able to buy the nice stuff since she saved her money for it. She asks if I could get it for her and I told her no since she will need to save up for it.

She has been pouting at day but when I explained the situation to my partner they were pissed. We got in a huge argument and they think I am huge jerk for telling her all this.

I need an outside opinion.

  • @GutwormEnglish
    1•1 year ago

    NTA

    You’re being a parent. Who else is supposed to teach these life lessons to their children? Having kids myself I’ve learned the whole “all kids are different”. You know your kids’ level of maturity and understanding better than anyone on the Internet. Based on my own anecdotal experience, 12 is definitely old enough to learn how to save money. It’s a life skill they won’t learn in school! Same with budgeting and other personal finance stuff. Keep being a parent! We need more parents doing parent things!