My girlfriend says she doesn’t like that I don’t work and don’t do anything to “develop myself”. I have passive income that’s more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn’t want to get a job because I don’t have one, and that annoys her that I’ll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.
I told her that I’m not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I’m just sitting at home.
I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.
I told her that I’m willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.
I’m assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?
What does she do to improve your life? Sounds like you are doing everything to support her. The role she fills for you, I don’t mean to be harsh, but sounds like it can be filled by anyone. I didn’t hear you professing your love, or being amazed by whatever traits she has. Sounds like it was maybe convenient for you. I would try to do better, as the resentment will only get worse with time. She should be grateful her bills are paid and she can work and develop herself and have extra cash to do whatever she wants without relying on you.
I’d run.