My girlfriend says she doesn’t like that I don’t work and don’t do anything to “develop myself”. I have passive income that’s more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn’t want to get a job because I don’t have one, and that annoys her that I’ll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.

I told her that I’m not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I’m just sitting at home.

I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.

I told her that I’m willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.

I’m assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?

  • magnetosphere@fedia.io
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    20 days ago

    She does say that it doesn’t have to be a way to make money, but she wants me to “develop myself” somehow.

    If that’s what she really thinks, it’s cool that she’s not entirely focused on money. Part of me wants to say “if she doesn’t like the way you’re living your life, she can GTFO”, but it’s also good to avoid stagnating.

    Consider taking an interesting class at a local community college.