• Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    34
    ·
    13 hours ago

    This sounds like the kind of flirting I’d expect after seeing '80s and '90s teen angst movies. In retrospect screenwriters just don’t understand how humans interact, or rather they just don’t care and go for madcap antics instead.

    I’m way neurodivergent, and was completely unaware of human interaction, so I was looking at Pretty in Pink and St. Elmo’s Fire (etc. etc.) trying to decipher how all that works.

    I became sexually active at 26 after folks from the kink community noticed my nerdy vibe, and they schooled me in some basic human interaction. (Note that I matrix-dodged a barrage of incel-to-fascist pipeline bullets thanks to some amazing strokes of fortune.)

    After the fact, in recollection, I realized then that a lot of women in my young adult life were signalling me and I never knew.

    I also realized my aunt was totally hitting on me when I was sixteen. That’s all sorts of awkward to reconcile.

    • uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      6 hours ago

      That’s exactly my experience, minus the creepy aunt and the kink community. My girlfriend is the exact same and I still don’t know how we managed a first kiss. I wouldn’t miss it for the world now, though.

    • AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      9
      ·
      12 hours ago

      “I became sexually active at 26 after folks from the kink community noticed my nerdy vibe, and they schooled me in some basic human interaction.”

      Solidarity fist bump. My own experience was somewhat different, but there is the common ground of learning communication skills on a lag, and learning from a niche community of lovely weirdos

  • Deathray5
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    11
    ·
    13 hours ago

    Fake: well obviously

    Gay: almost certainly written by a guy

  • merc@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    24
    ·
    16 hours ago

    “Touching his food” can run the gamut between:

    Take one of his potato chips and eat it

    to

    Stick my thumb in his soup

    If a friend or family member took one of my potato chips and ate it, I’d probably be fine with it. At worst I’d be a little annoyed. If an acquaintance or cow-orker did that it would be a little more strange, but not the end of the world. But, the other end of the spectrum is much weirder.

    Grabbing a potato chip, if done carefully, will mean not touching anything else. Any dirt or germs on the toucher’s hands aren’t going to get spread around the rest of the food, but touching a liquid or something with sauce on it is different. IMO, touching someone’s pasta is definitely on the germ-spreading end of the scale.

    • I can’t respond to your other comment bc snooggums is banned from my instance

      It’s one of those things that works in movies because it’s something you can get away with if you’re incredibly attractive. There’s a whole stock images category involving girls licking their fingers, mostly in a seductive style. But, in the real world, it’s something you do with your husband or long-term partner, not a random cow-orker.

      I think this is what people aren’t understanding. Someone who does this repeatedly surely must have learned that it’s okay/works from a history of doing it, so they’re probably very attractive. I’m pretty confident that most normies would react much more playfully/positively than the responses in the comments here if an incredibly attractive person did this to them. If the goal is to swap spit anyway, you’re not gonna be thinking about the germs on their fingers

  • Numuruzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    45
    ·
    18 hours ago

    It’s not weird to touch other people’s food everyone does it just for fun. Go to your neighbor’s house and touch their food and you can laugh together.

      • toynbee@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        18 hours ago

        Well, given your username, I’m no longer sure whether I should allow my guts and food to interact.

        I’m also curious whether you made a typo and were too stubborn to correct it, whether it was intentional, or whether I’m imagining the whole thing.

        Honestly, I have so few people in my life that finding out one (or more) were a figment of imagination is a genuine phobia of mine. I’ve freaked out my wife by debating that there’s no way I can be certain she’s real. (Though the evidence does support it.)

          • REDACTED@infosec.pub
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            8
            ·
            18 hours ago

            Is it anti-dystopian if I trust my ISP and government with my data more than I trust random VPN companies?

              • REDACTED@infosec.pub
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                3
                ·
                edit-2
                15 hours ago

                I guess it’s more about the fact that for me VPN itself feels like an unnecessary step that potentially comes with risks (not saying that currently there are any issues with protonVPN, but I’ve used to the fact that all good things enshittify). I’ve never had problems pirating, the only thing government (with very low effort and barely any enforcment) blocks are online gambling sites, which pretty much everyone supports anyway. My previous ISP used to host FTP server for power users that had pirated movies and games, with speeds so fast my HDD was the bottleneck. That was around 12-14 years ago tho, I moved. EU data laws and privacy laws makes me feel somewhat safe. No known mass espionage or anything like that.

            • Lena@gregtech.eu
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              2
              ·
              14 hours ago

              Slovenian ISPs don’t give a shit about what I do online, even if it’s piracy, so I don’t need a VPN.

    • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      40
      ·
      21 hours ago

      You can discuss the events of a story, and the relative morality and social etiquette of the characters in it, even if the whole thing is entirely fiction. Functionally, it makes no difference if it really happened or it didn’t. Sometimes that matters, but here is doesn’t. You don’t know these people, you’ll never meet these people, and there’s no real-world effect of discussing this story (except maybe someone learns not to touch somebody else’s food?).

      Fuck it, you could be a bot programmed to complain about people taking shitposts seriously. I could be an AI created to respond to your prompts to try to convince you not to complain about fabricated stories. This entire interaction could be four bots engaged in a learning exercise in a simulated online forum. Or maybe it was all a dream the whole time.

      • Gold_E_Lox@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        edit-2
        20 hours ago

        wow! congratulations! you figured out social media is pretty much useless and entertainment is pointless! this guy is smart because he thinks this a worthless endeavour, and i was really starting to base my whole morality system on this shitpost, thanks for steering me in the right direction! :D

  • marighost@piefed.social
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    29
    ·
    22 hours ago

    Instead, he smashes my burger to bits without even looking away from his coffee, just stares at me
    Without looking away from his coffee
    Just stares at me

    how he do that

  • SweetPomegranate@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    34
    ·
    22 hours ago

    I’m not sure if the guy was trying to protect his virginity, or if he was genuinely bothered by the damn bitch constantly touching his food. I’d be annoyed too if someone kept sticking their hand in my food every single day.