• Poggervania@kbin.social
    242·
    2 years ago

    Genders are a social construct, yes, but some people are literally born gay. It wasn’t like they chose to be gay - they just are. To say that sexuality is a “result of society” is absolutely ridiculous. To put this in perspective: can you, a straight guy, can just choose to be gay? Can you suddenly decide that you want to suck a dick? That’s how you know it’s not a social construct - you’re literally hard-wired to be whatever the fuck sexuality you are.

    I sort of get what you’re saying with heterosexuality being the “default” because it’s quite literally how the human race needs to reproduce, but please don’t go saying that people choose to be gay, because they do not.

    • Wergul@lemmy.world
      112·
      2 years ago

      I always feel like “Choose to not be gay” people

      1. Want to try sleeping with someone of their gender
      2. Decide to suppress their needs because of religion / societal pressure
      3. Say to themselves “I’m not gay because I married a women/man”
      4. Project this on to all people and say that gay people gave in to their desires while straight are strong and don’t

      They don’t realize not every man wants to suck dick.

      They don’t realize step 1 already makes them gay no matter their choices.

      • Ech@lemm.eeEnglish
        1·
        2 years ago

        This feels like the “One drop of blood” test but for sexuality. Things exist on a spectrum. Gay isn’t just “not straight”. People aren’t gay just because they wondered about same-sex relationships.