Any kind of naughtiness make sure to add it here. We’re dying to know!
I’ll add my own non-update below :-)
Pretty chill weekend for me, girlfriend and I spent most of it cuddling up on the couch watching Netflix, I got to introduce her to The Good Place, it’s one of my favorite shows! Easy to pause and put on hold when we’d get distracted
hehehehe distracted ;-)
I will confess I’m not very good at just cuddling for a long time without it getting sexy. It’s something I have to work on for sure.
Lol well our track record of cuddling without it getting sexy isn’t too great either! That kind of thing is great for keeping things on a low simmer and letting it build until we get ready to take a break!
I love that forking show!
Still so glad to see this relationship growing! ❤️
As I mentioned last week, I took this week off from sex. Some of the guys and gals online did a great job of teasing me with some very naughty chats, pics, and videos. Basically had me constantly hard and wanting to fuck. I think I had gotten used to being really sexual because I had to jack off up to three or four times a day to feel normal!
On a cleaner note, I went to a black tie benefit event with my sister. She’s a great wingman. With her support, I got the phone numbers of two really sexy, beautiful, and smart women! I haven’t picked someone up like that in a long time. I’m making plans with each of them (separately!). Let’s see where it goes!
I just signed up for Tinder, and listed myself as bi. It’s kind of annoying that I’m matching like 90% with guys and maybe 10% women. I would like a more even split. I guess this is why some other bi guys told me they use those apps for women only…
edit: I guess at least there are a lot of very attractive people in general on there.
Unfortunately a lot of girls have a dumb stigma about bi guys, it’s such a stupid double standard
Thanks! I did pretty quickly remove the “bisexual” label from my profile and that helped. It increased my matches from 0% to 10% female 🙃
Wow only 10%?! That’s crazy, I had no idea so many women would care that a guy is bi!
To be fair I’m not in NYC right now. When I go back let’s see what happens. I’ll report back 🙂
It’s weird that so much girls avoid bi guys. I guess there’s some underlying biphobic prejudice. They should meet my SO. She likes to be with a man who knows both sides, and understands that some male behaviors are, in fact, neither cool nor pleasant.
And that’s nice of your sister. Does she only put you in touch with girls? Does she know that you’re interested in boys too?
Thanks. Biphobia definitely is affecting me and my love life. Your SO sounds like a gem. My sister and I don’t talk about that really. And to be fair I haven’t ever actually been in a relationship with a man, even if I’m open to it.
Wow, damn! I hope the date with the two ladies goes well! Your sister is a hell of a wingman!
And to be honest, if your sister set you up, chances are the ladies are pretty cool too - I doubt family members would want their siblings to be hooking up with some weirdo!
lol “date with the two ladies” makes it sound like a date with both of them at the same time. I wouldn’t be opposed, mind you…
Yeah, my sister is great. She didn’t set us up like that, but she did intro herself and talk me up a bit when I went to get a drink. She’s super excited for me, too :-)
🥳
I met several guys at the sauna, no much to tell about them. Except one.
First, he was handsome. About my age, a thin body, not too muscular, his right arm full tattooed and his left nipple pierced, with slanted eyes.
I started to caress him in the steam room, my mouth found its way to his long thin cock. After a few time, he interrupted to kiss me, and I whispered in his ear “would you fuck me, please?”.
We took a room and got back to kissing, caressing, sucking each other, until he was hard enough to put a condom. He asked to fuck me missionary. I tried to cross my legs in his back (I love when a girl does that to me) but he stretched out my legs to kiss my feet, while I played with his nipples.
Then we made a pause, he lied on his back and sucked me, sitting on my knees close to his head. Then, he asked me to sit on his cock.
After a while, we changed position so he fucked me doggystyle, and finally he pushed me face to the bed, and fucked me pronebone.
We finished with a mutual handjob, and spent a few more time kissing, hugging and talking. That was lovely.
Wow. That’s really steamy. Makes me really miss the feeling of intimacy from this past week. Glad you had fun! You think you would ever see him again or was the anonymity what makes it so hot?
Someone asking me to fuck them like that is such a huge turn on.
I’m pretty sure you’ll feel this intimacy again soon. Sometimes, a week off doesn’t hurt.
About him, we’ll never meet again (he was in town for a business trip). We made love like if it was the first and the last time. Carpe diem.
And yes, words can be as steamy as an embrace. Those who say consent kills desire don’t know much about it.
Damn, I’ve go to the sauna about every two weeks, and not a single girl even eyed me. There are not many that sauna fully naked tho - which I do, because it’s better for the experience and it’s the way to sauna. Lucky guy.
I go to a gay sauna, so there’s no girl to eye at you. ;) But generally speaking, in my country, nudity is forbidden in mixed saunas.
Man, that sounds exciting and wholesome af. Very happy for the both of you!
For the past couple of months, I’ve been trying an experiement. I’ve decided not to be touching myself, not even for a little relief, not to help me sleep, not at all.
I’m doing this for my other half, who hasn’t asked me to refrain from self-abuse, who wouldn’t have thought to ask about it, and was even mildly horrified when I explained to her what I was doing. My other half is a poweful person in life, she leads people at work, she grows food at home, she raises chickens, she learns fast and cannot be stopped. However, behind closed doors, she wants someone to take charge. She doesn’t want to decide what we are going to do, she wants someone else to be in charge for a while.
Not touching myself has made me a little… intense. Loud. Maybe a little demanding. And she’s been enjoying it immensely, to the point where we have to take a couple of nights a week off to recover.
Very hot stuff! I should try that next and really lean into my dominant nature with partners.
Being the dominant partner is completely new for me, so I’m having to work at it. An example: the wife is in to CNC/rape play, and I’m a bit uncomfortable with it. But she wanted it. Cue me, sitting in the car outside of our house after work, trying to get it together well enough that I could do what she wanted. I made it happen, and we had fun, but I’m more of a soft dom.
Being dominant takes practice, it would appear.
You sound like a good partner. I enjoy being a pleasure dom a lot. I’m not sure I could be “mean” even if it’s just acting.
Yeah the “being mean” is difficult and I don’t nornally do it. But if she wants me to drag her to bed I’m going to do it.
I’m glad someone has mentioned wanking in the context of helping get some sleep. I thought it was just me!!
I would say I do that at least once every couple of weeks. It used to be several times a week, but I’ve gotten better at getting to sleep in general.
It’s still my go-to if I can’t get to sleep.
Nothing! It’s been a busy week, so I’ve shared some pics and that’s about it! Had a work event that I went to, got to dress up a bit. Also had some family events this weekend. So all in all, very non-spicy, but still fun 😊
Honestly, as long as you’re having fun, you’re winning at life!
Yes this is true! 😊
Hey! Sorry for the long delay in responding! It’s been a busy last week and current week!
It seems like last week was the week of abstinence for a lot of us! 🤣
Of course, I pledged to quit using escorts/sex workers for sex. As promised, I’ve done just that!
I’ve signed up to Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. The only women who have matched with me are basically cryptoscammers from Singapore.
I did choose to open myself up to being matched with males for the sake of seeing if my account was being hidden by the algorithms. Considering I was flooded with male matches, I’m not being hidden - women just keep swiping left every time they see me 🥲
I’m sure I need to take a deeper look at my profile to make sure I haven’t said anything offputting or not having too many selfies (very guilty of the latter - I feel like guys just don’t ask their friends to take pictures of them near landmarks and shit).
So all in all, no hanky-pany, and no dates. Boo!
I did go to a charity event and saw lots of old friends, so that was awesome! Not so awesome? Getting the flu. This is why I’ve taken so long to respond to this thread, so my deepest apologies.
Going back to sex workers/escorting - I’m not going to lie, I do have a deep hankering to go back to the escort and have some fun, but I do realise that’s the lizard part of my brain that enjoys having sex on a tap. I also know it’s not good to have that expectation of women (even women in sex work) that are ready to have sex on my beck and call.
It is hard trying to challenge that lizard brain that wants nookie, but I also have to realise that the reason why I’m leaving it behind was the realisation that there are a lot of ethical issues around sex work - the escort I frequented accidentally admitted that there are times she doesn’t want to have sex, but effectively “encourages” herself to go through with it as she needs the money.
Now that sounds a lot like coercion to me - and it’s not the relationship dynamic that I want from anyone. So it’s just another week of putting a lid on it.
Sorry things are not going great from the get-go with dating. You’re taking a huge step – please stick with it!
Oh don’t worry. I’ve been in bed with COVID all week so I haven’t been anywhere. Plus, it helped me put some perspective on things. At first I felt sorry for myself, but now I’m grateful of where I’m at.
Dating apps have not gone from my phone, and even my friend was like “mate, it’s only been a week. CHILL!” And he seems to get girlfriends like anything - so if he’s telling me to chill, I gotta chill.
Sounds like you have good friends to help you figure this out. You can do it!