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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/fuckyoufloriann on 2023-07-18 08:11:11.

I saw a post about an 18 year old guy having regular sex with an older woman and the replies were pretty good and thoughtful since I am in a similar situation lol but some questioned what the advice would be if the genders were reversed, and I didn’t even think about that but now I kinda want to know what some people think.

I’ll start out with giving some back story. We met outside a bar (legal drinking age is 18) as they were closing. He saw that I wasn’t feeling well after talking to me and my friend and called me and my bff a taxi. A few weekends later we met again at the same bar and I remembered him. I thanked him and we hit it off. He basically told me that he was freshly out of a relationship and he was set on being celibat for the rest of his life (lol), we talked for a bit and he was a bit flirty but definitely not coming on to me like dudes my age. I tried kissing him at the end of that night but he leaned away and gave me a hug, pretending he didn’t notice.

The day after he texted me and said that he didn’t want to lead me on since he was not interested in any sort of relationships but that I seem great and stuff. I just sorta laughed it off and said that it was fine, but that my parents would never allow me to date a 39 yo and that I wasn’t interested in him “emotionally” and told him that he has the most beautiful hands I’ve ever seen and I just kinda wanted to see what they felt like (can’t decided if this was smooth or just cringe now, thinking back at it lol but seriously, his hands… Just the right mix of clean and manly lol)

It took a while for him to reply, but it basically ended up with us deciding if we meet again and it feels right, we might do stuff.

And now it’s been like 3 months and we’re fwb. Neither of us are interested in getting together romantically but we have a goodass time together.

I think he’s cool and stuff and he’s definitely hot but I don’t actually want to get together with him, he might have like 10 years left of looking good and I don’t want to spend my 40s+ caring for some old guy lol

So, is he taking advantage of me?