Yeah I wince at the “lips that grip” pictures; my body did not forget that feeling. And it was terrifying immediately after having kids, if course. But having the skin tightness eased and the muscles toned and a husband hung thicker than average, all of that combined is so pleasurable. I really wish I’d believed the midwife 30 years ago, and would advise any woman worried about ‘staying tight’ that controlled stretching and kegels and lots of sex is a much better long term strategy.