Unpopular (?) opinion - text/IM systems are asynchronous messaging systems, and in most cases it’s totally reasonable to not immediately jump on your phone and answer a message as soon as you get the notification.
One of my friends is the sort of person who will stop mid sentence when their phone pings so they can answer whatever they’ve been sent and it drives me nuts
Can’t remember the last time I had my phone off silent.
Yeah my phone gets attention when i want, not when it wants.
I have all notifications off for all apps too, i don’t need an app saying hey we haven’t fed you crap for an hour come look
My phone used to be on vibrate until i accidentally cut the motor during a repair. My phone suddenly became a healthier part of my life where i look at it when i feel like. I also miss every urgent message from everyone.
If I had my phone on silent I would miss a lot of important shit.
But thankfully Android has excellent customization so I know without even pulling the phone out what is notifying and whether it needs to be addressed immediately or checked later.
Notifications that are truly not high priority just get put on silent, which also shifts them to the bottom of my notifications.
My wife is like that, and it kills me. I might leave your text unread for hours because if it was important, you’d call. I have priorities! Like the next round of Helldivers.
I’ll never call. But I also understand that not everyone looks at their phone at all times.
You’d call
Does anyone call these days? Nobody seems to pick up for fuck all.
I’ve received 158 calls in the last 7 days, and not one was a valid call. All spam and fraud.
I send all unknown callers straight to voicemail. But I do frequently make/receive calls from family, friends, coworkers, etc. Probably a dozen/day. I like having a conversation.
I have had none in the last month. It’s the magic of not giving my number to anyone who does not absolutely require it.
I don’t know.
Android is pretty damned good at filtering those. I usually have 1-2 a week that I have to send to the transcription service.
The landline at work is a different story.
It doesn’t offer any out of the box filters to my knowledge. What are you talking about?
My carrier does but it’s pretty bad. It does filter maybe 70 out of 150 and then I blocked each and every one. At a certain point I’ll have blocked every single number in my area code. Which is fine because I no longer live in the area code for my phone number.
Don’t forget to take breaks… If you want to be remembered as a coward!
I always see the priority from highest to lowest as Calls, then texts then emails. Texts can be responded to immediately or later in the day, but more than ~4-8 hours is unacceptable
I’d raise that to 24 hours, but you’re right. I know two people like that. One just lets messages pile up until they feel like responding, which can take up to a month. Another straight up told me they have so much incoming messages that they have no hope of ever going throughб so if I wanted to reach themб I should keep messaging them like every few minutes to keep the dialogue up in the list. I’d say that’s just a poor communications hygiene. Suffice to say I don’t really talk to either of them anymore. I know smalltalk isn’t urgent, but I cant see it as a dialogue anymore if it goes slower than a message/day.
This is so annoying, I like to remain in the room even if I’m using my phone, but my friends literally check-out. Like they’re in another place and can’t communicate with me whilst using their phones.
A relative does that, and sometimes completely forgets we were having a convo after they’re done with the phone
I used to date a girl who would answer her phone mid-sex to have some innane conversation for 30 minutes and not see a problem with that at all. That relationship did not last very long.
I’m sorry but lmao
Did you shrug and just keep going?
Nah, that’s a put your pants back on and go home scenario for me.
It’s unpopular because it’s so far removed from it’s closes analogue analogue, envelope mail. And because it’s on mobile phones people incorrectly assume it’s closer to a phone call.
I find it’s simpler to simplify all internet scenarios to postal mail & home telephone scenarios.
I feel so disengaged when someone does that to me that I just stop communicating with them in the future
Orrrrrr he has social anxiety and has difficulty replying.
Sincerely, somebody with social anxiety
It could be both… PvP me!
First reply> 12hrs ago
Second reply> 2hrs ago
Checks out…
This is me too. That and there is this stupid goddamn idea of “caring too much.” Like responding quickly is a bad thing because it makes you seem desperate… Ffs I wouldn’t be messaging you if I wasn’t interested, but now I need to wait and play a stupid mind game so I don’t lose the persons interest because they might assume that stupid thing about quick replies being a bad thing…
I hate mental games so freaking much…
If the other person cares about silly games like this, they might not be that interested in taking to you.
Yeah, find someone not into playing head games. There are plenty such people about.
There’s a Deathbulge comic for that, I just can’t find it. Basically a dude taking forever to reply to get “cool points” and accidentally replying immediately a second time, immediately losing all his cool
If it’s recently, its probably helldiver’s 2 in which case wait your fucking turn lady! He’s risking his life to spread liberty and force democracy on godless bugs and soulless robots. THESE ARE IMPORTANT THINGS
Rock and stone for me. Also has bugs nad robots, but more capitalist ⛏️
Rock and stone, brother!
Thank you for your service, helldiver!
I kind of wish helldivers had more downtime so I wouldn’t neglect my gf’s texts as much
There’s tons of downtime if you’re trash like me! Two minute respawn timer hangout gang through and through
At one point in college some friends and i made up a system for just explicitly state what sort of response you needed. Ok, “made up a system” is a little over stating it. Basically it was “Hey this is important can I have your undivided attention?” through the lens of stupid nerd jokes. Like, “setPriority(10) i’m locked out of my apartment do you have a spare key?” vs “setPriority(0) i am so mad that fallout3 requires GFWL”
Now i’d probably just say “hey this is important do you have a few minutes?” in normal words.
If you used setPriority, does that mean all subsequent messages have the same priority? Or is this a dsl that implicitly takes the message as the second parameter?
The priority would stay as set until explicitly changed, or it was set back to the default after a period of inactivity.
Pretty good protocol. I like it.
Its
UDP
Unlimited Dependable Priority
I unironicly love that
setPriority(4) Hmmm actually I like this
You have my undivided attention… while I queue for the next game.
If you dont know why it takes me 25 minutes to respond, you dont know me well enough to get mad that you are only #2 on my priorities list.
Wait… some people immediately text back, over and over? Huh.
But what do women do when they respond somewhere in between 4 hours to 30 days?
Actual games. Obviously I’m generalizing here and that isn’t fair, but there are times when I feel like my wife is a Great Wife Buffalo who has never had the patience for that bullshit. She’s very direct when communicating.
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Reminds of peep show where David Mitchell injects the Battle of Stalingrad into every other conversation he has with a woman lol
So what’s her excuse when it’s the other way around?
Why wouldn’t it be video games?
Because women don’t play video games, silly!
Because the text makes it sound like the person disapproves of the delay being caused by video games.
Also the language is weirdly stilted in a way that suggests they probably dont play video games.
Would you be wrong in saying a given woman is statistically unlikely to play video games?
Fully half of women report they never play video games, and even more report specifically playing The Sims and nothing else.
Lots of chicks out there for whom gaming isn’t part of their world.
We’re not allowed to ax that question.
Sounds like Battlefield, COD or any battle royale game. 25-35 minute average on all those
My wife plays way too many video games at work apparently. Or is this just a guy thing?
My priority list goes:
People in front of me What I’m doing now Thoughts in my head Digital communication
People in front of me What I'm doing now Thoughts in my head Digital communicationGotta leave an empty line in between
If you want immediate responses, CALL THEM.
Yeah, it’s weird that we’ve relegated this amazing technology that lets you communicate by voice (and now video) to the back burner in favor of a far more cumbersome one that removes so much context in terms of tone.
I hate the ringing of a phone, so I think it is a very acceptable level of cumbersome.
Ew. Call? Like on a phone?
Whenever someone sends me an important message and I don’t read/respond in time, they call to get my attention so I can do so. My ex used to get mad at me for “ignoring” her for 2h or more and would call. I was just busy doing whatever and ignoring the phone as usual.
I hate that. Also in a business setting. By definition a message (be it text, email, whatever) is not urgent. They might be important and of course you shouldn’t leave them unread for days, but for urgency there’s calls.
I always perceive an IM as high but not immediate importance, an email as “get to it when you can”, and phone call as immediate.
The older people I work with tend to call for email level things.
No you’re talking to a guy who’s letting an llm do the groundwork.
Would probably be a lot faster if he was
