• @[email protected]
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    438 months ago

    I knew a guy, now divorced, that would leave for work on his days off. He would eat breakfast out, then park down the road from his house and wait for his spouse to leave. Then he would go home.

    I told my girlfriend of the time and we decided then and there that our days off were our own.

    I encourage you all to have this conversation when the stakes are low.

  • @[email protected]
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    318 months ago

    Particularly my father-in-law. Somehow there’s always something he just so happens to “need” me for.

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    8 months ago

    Kind of a different scenario but reminds me of when a co-worker took sick days and almost immediately updated their profile picture of them being out-of-state. Left us baffled.

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      48 months ago

      Mental health days, needed to take a short trip. PTO is for personal time off; I never even give a reason for why I’m calling-in. I just make sure to give at least a 4-hour heads-up (though the policy is 3 hours before it’s considered “unexcused”) as a professional courtesy. Other than that, those are my days to use as I see fit.

      Now if I have something planned ahead of time, of course I’ll let them know way in advance. But sometimes shit pops up and the PTO is mine to use as needed. But that’s just how I feel about it

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      58 months ago

      Yeah, if I told my wife I didn’t feel like working and was taking the day off, she’d probably be happy for me. But if I took the day off and didn’t tell her, she’d probably murder the shit out of me.

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        58 months ago

        Yeah mine is unemployed so I’d have to not be at home. If she found out she’d probably assume I cheated on her, which is impressive because literally the only way we can cheat in our relationship is to hide sleeping around. Also like idk what I’d even do all day hiding from home

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      78 months ago

      I sometimes forget that paid leave is not an universal right. I’m truly sorry you have to choose between money and a day off.

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        28 months ago

        Often it’s not just “money” and a day off, but food, or rest. Or housing or rest…

        At least the CEO can make that meagre $6,000/hr. We really did good with society didn’t we? /s

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    98 months ago

    But I’ll know, and if I don’t get anything done I’ll be upset with myself. How do I take a day of without me knowing?

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      28 months ago

      I feel this.

      None of my stuff gets done when I’m gone, so a day off just makes things worse when I return to the office, so I end up spending my day off answering emails and taking phone calls.

      A day off is basically just remote work that burns vacation time.

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          18 months ago

          In my case it really is true. I work for a very small city with less than a dozen employees, and we all wear a lot of hats. I process permits, coordinate development projects, am the GIS department, and have been known to flag traffic when there’s a road collapse.

          The State keeps passing new laws to prevent cities from getting more income, so we can’t hire more people.

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              28 months ago

              I don’t disagree. We’ll spend $60,000 on engineering reviews making sure a billionaire’s new house won’t flood the street, then another $200,000 in court to tell him he can’t build what he wants, then another $200,000 forcing him to tear out down after he built it anyway, and all we can charge him is 10 grand because of politicians.