Pride should stem from good personal decisions or accomplishments given one’s situation and life circumstances. Being born somewhere isn’t a decision nor an accomplishment.
I think the problem is that people conflate being proud of others with themselves. They take on the achievements of others as their own.
This dude was from my place and was great so therefore I’m great.
This is what nationalists, fascists, racial supremacists and other extremists do on the regular. They have no achievements of their own to be proud of so they have to steal somebody else’s.
There are two sides to it.
If a childhood friend of yours grows up to be a skilled athlete, you can be proud that someone with a shared downtrodden background as yourself has excelled: it’s a shining example to the world that it can’t oppress all of us, and there is a sense of genuine communal solidarity in it.
That being said, if you come from a pretty majority background with plenty of opportunities, and you take communal pride in your friends achievements, then there is nothing really won. The world was never trying to keep your community down, your friend just did well and you should be happy for him and that’s about it.
Needs to be narrower. Nobody should be proud of being from where they are from because they are from there. It’s not inherently good to be from any particular place.
But you’re allowed to be proud of your local community because of things they have done regardless of whether you were born there or not.
It’s less about accomplishment and more about being proud of the city or town itself. Proud of the people you called neighbors and their struggles and lives. Proud of the community banding together and supporting each other.
Thats at least how I always saw it
Pride is defined by Merriam-Webster as “reasonable self-esteem” or “confidence and satisfaction in oneself”. Oxford defines it as “the quality of having an excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s own importance.” Pride may be related to one’s own abilities or achievements, positive characteristics of friends or family, or one’s country.
But it is about accomplishment, pride is directly related to self-esteem, self-confidence, self-satisfaction. In America there are way too many people who are “proud to be American” without really thinking much beyond that.
I think it’s okay to be proud of one’s own community if they’ve taken part in shaping that community and made it better in some way.
“Proud to be an American” is a manufactured, measured out, and heavily marketed slogan, not actual pride. Hell, every nation does this. It’s only one method of control among many, though.
Secondly, it’s wiser to not cite dictionary sources unless your argument is syntactical; socioeconomic strata are very unlikely to be accounted for in whatever abridged morsel those references offer — to say nothing of the psychological variance inherent in such a topic. Furthermore, vernacular morphology is real.
Keep looking for answers, though. (This is less an “Unpopular Opinion”, and simply a seedling of a thought needing some attentive guidance.
You can’t go with that narrow of a definition. What about a parent being proud of their kid? That’s also pride.
Nationalism can easily become a bad thing, I agree. But I can also see why people would feel a certain pride to be a part of a community that accomplished something positive, and while they may have not been around to participate, the pride may be what inspires them to contribute in the future.
Ignorance, and an unwillingness to reflect on your countries recent history while spouting propaganda (i. e. “X is the best country in the world”), yes - that’s bullshit.
Came prepared to downvote this for being common sense, but judging by the comments it actually is surprisingly unpopular! Well played.
I don’t know if it was intentional on OP’s part, but our April Fool’s Day rules are in effect at the moment, so posts are expected to be “Popular Opinions” .
Are comments in April fool’s mode too? Seems like all the communists took a day off and all the nationalists showed up. The comments here are very unexpected.
Lol. Only the post submissions are expected (though not required) to be Popular for today. Comments, as usual, are open season.
Lol I didn’t even see that, fair enough 😄
Tribalism is mainly emotional rather than rational and, further, humans feel a need to belong, so choosing the logical take on things like national pride (or pride in one’s sport’s team, political party and so on) is very unusual and when voiced generally receives an intenselly negativelly response from most others as they are heavilly emotionally invested into their love of, and pride in, things like nation, sports team, religion, etnicity, politics and so on.
I looked up pride and one of the definitions was: *Pleasure or satisfaction taken in an achievement, possession, or association. *
For example: parental pride. Many parents are proud of their children regardless of the achievements or personal decisions. Pride can, I believe, sometimes be tied to a love for something/someone.
So being proud to come from some place is to me, saying: I love that I came from this place or “I’m thankful that I was born here”
This is coming from someone that doesn’t really care much for his birth city nor country.
I get so annoyed with people who are on tv shows, (like competitions, or reality shows) who claim they want to “make my country proud” and they don’t want to let them down. Did everyone in your country send you there? Was there a vote? Are they paying you? No. You made a choice to be on the show, your entire nation is unlikely watching or cheering you on. When you lose Joanne, and you will, no one will care then either. And the people watching the show will not suddenly start calling people from your country losers, they will only know that you, Joanne are the loser, not all the other millions of citizens of your nation. **Joanne is a generic contestant for the purpose of this rant.
Agreed. Also genetic heritage. I literally didn’t have any choice in any of it. And to pretend my genetic heritage is somehow something to be more proud of than any other genetic is literally racist.
This applies to all races equally.
I feel lucky about where I was born. I won a birth lottery, but I believe there are other places that have bigger lottery jackpots.
Is this actually an unpopular opinion?
I’m almost certain if you shared this opinion in most places in the US, or if the US president said something along these lines, it would be taken very very badly. Unpopular on Lemmy? Probably not, but Lemmy is mostly far-left Progressive Liberals.
Hi OP, just a gentle reminder about Rule 1 (No Politics). In future please try and refrain from using adjacent terminology in this community, as present in the latter portion of this comment, as this may incite violations of other community rules within the replies
That’s not compelling “proof”, this assurance that you (an internet stranger) are “almost certain”, to be entirely fair — and the fallback on hyperbole is a dead giveaway for how your own confidence in that statement is lacking. All due respect.
What is a “far-left progressive liberal?” Liberals are, by definition, right-wing, as they focus on Capitalism as their mode of production, as opposed to Socialism. The most progressive among liberals are probably Social Democrats, which I wouldn’t quite consider liberal. Social Democrats are people in support of Scandinavian style Capitalism, with generous social safety nets, and thus Center-right.
That’s to say nothing of Lemmy, which is definitely further left than that, ie Socialists, Anarchists, and Communists, the only far-left being Anarchists and Communists.
I mean there are different types of pride. Being lgbt isn’t a decision either, yet we have Pride, because being proud of who you are is often about more than just accomplishments, for many people it’s about accepting and embracing the parts of you that you can’t change. Just because you don’t personally like that it includes that definition, it doesn’t erase the fact that that is a part of the definition and has been for a long time.
In an ideal world LGBT Pride would not need to exist because all sexual orientations would be treated as absolutelly normal, so one’s sexual orientation, no matter which one, would be as deserving of pride as, for example, one’s eye color, i.e. not at all unless one is some kind of narcissist. LGBT Pride is really just a response to a World that in most places sees minority sexual orientations as “wrong”.
I suppose you could divide that pride into two parts, one deserving of as much pride as one’s land of birth and another really deserving of pride:
- The first, pride in one’s sexual orientation (be it LGBT or any other including the majority one), is as deserving of pride as the nation one was born into, which is not at all because one does not choose how or where one is born and hence, not being an actual personal choice, it’s not something deserving of pride.
- On the other hand the other part, that of an LGBT person having pride for having fought for and manage to living life as they are in an environment which discriminates against non-majority sexual orientations, is indeed real, deserved pride (IMHO), as it’s pride in one’s achievements.
Anyways, my point being LGBT Pride as openly celebrated isn’t pride in the common sense of the word, but quite a lot more than that.
I’d rather not be born in a place where this opinion is unpopular.
Same thing when I see people crying over their country’s team winning an Olympic medal.
Get a grip - You didn’t do anything except be born in the same geopolitical boundary as the actual athletes. Perhaps one 50th of a penny of your tax dollars contributed to the team athletic funding.
Fun fact, a major contributor for funding training US Olympic athletes comes from the Department of Defense, and it’s about 200 million per year. Unless it’s an Olympics year and then costs skyrocket.
I told my children that pride is a product of hard work; in life, there’s nothing worth boasting about unless you’ve earned it through effort.
You can be proud about your country. You can be proud about everything that makes your country special. Your food, your traditions,… Why shouldn’t you.
Yeah, if you’ve got no own accomplishments to be proud of, I guess you can do that.
Sorry you are from a miserable area that has nothing to enjoy and take pride in. I’m from St. Louis originally, and despite it’s many faults, history of racism, and 2 centuries of shooting otself in the foot i still am proud to be from there. The sports teams are my favorite, the Arch is a beautiful monument, and the free services such as the zoo, Art Museum, and Muny theater are all amazing municipal achievements that took the whole community to accomplish.
You can be proud of where you are from and be open about the faults and problems of that place. Civic pride isn’t blind nationalism.
…April fool’s…?
Not sure if you’re being serious, but if you are, you’re perfectly proving my point.
LGBT+ people celebrate pride month for how they were born. Martin Luther King Jr, Rosa Parks, Frederick Douglass,and Malcolm X all took pride in looking like their parents. Ukrainians are proud of their country in the face of Russian invasion. Were all those people dumb for taking pride in something they had no control over?
It just seems to me that you are ashamed of wherever you are from and can’t understand someone else having prode in their home
Because you did nothing to create any of that. Appreciating one’s country especially certain aspects of it seems like a good idea. Being proud of it makes no sense. Most countries have some ugly shit in their past. Proud of that too? Not sure you get to pick and choose.
There’s nothing that necessitates that you can only be proud of things you have personally done.
Unless you care about “meaning”
There is nothing in the definitions of pride that necessitates it either, so yes including if you care about what it actually means rather than what you want it to mean. If you look up the definition of the word it includes multiple definitions of pride that do not require your own personal accomplishments or actions, and those are not new definitions. It’s extremely common in the English language for a word to have multiple meanings depending on the context they’re used in that may be connected but are not necessarily the same.
So I shouldn’t proud of my personal identity and my roots? Which literally plays a huge part of who I am today and especially, where I was brought up cuz without it, I wouldn’t be me and I wouldn’t have an identity without it.
But ok then go off………
You still have your identity without having to feel proud about it.
My country sucks big time. Should I feel ashamed even though I contributed nothing to its suckiness?
You nailed it. Most correct and succinct comment in the thread.
That’s a leap in logic. Pride is a personal thing no one else can dictate what you are or aren’t proud of, nor can they dictate what you’re ashamed of. Someone else being proud of their heritage in no way implies that you have to he ashamed of yours.
They can feel whatever they want, it is their freedom.
I am just saying that there is no good reason for their national pride.
The long standing definitions of the word that don’t necessitate that you can only be proud of things you’ve personally done seem like plenty good reason to me. National pride isn’t an excuse to be an asshole or a bigot or to oppress people, but national pride has never been necessary for people to exhibit that sort of behaviour. Being proud of your origins and your roots and where you’ve come from is not inherently a bad thing if you’re mindful about it. And just because you don’t personally feel proud of your own roots, and I’m sure your reasons for feeling that way are perfectly legitimate, that doesn’t mean you have to project your personal feelings towards your own roots on other people who feel differently about theirs.
Not really. We all came from somewhere. We all have an identity. Unless you worked hard for it, you shouldn’t feel pride in it. Someone else worked hard for it, THEY should feel pride for it. You should feel humble, grateful, or lucky that you are able to enjoy it (assuming they’re good “roots”). You shouldn’t feel pride in having won the lottery.
Yep. People watching the Olympics while being obese sitting on a sofa eating big macs with extra cheese. The athletes did all the hard work, and the audience at home take the pride for whatever reason.
Humans have not evolved beyond tribalism. They still think in terms of borders instead of the planet.
Hah why are you down voted. You made fun of fat people, okay well its like their own fault for being fat for 99% of them.
