My recent ex girlfriend would take certain things we were about to do together (traveling, going to the spa, going to a particular restaurant close to my house, spending the day at a museum, etc.) and would just automatically assume that I had already done that same thing with some unspoken past ex of mine, and get preemptively sad, upset, and self-conscious that she wasn’t “the first”… What? Life isn’t all about firsts, why even get upset about that? So what if I’ve already done something before with someone else, I am still going to enjoy it with YOU right NOW. Maybe a lot of people do compare past experiences to current ones, but I don’t find that very fulfilling, so I just don’t. It’s a lot easier to just live day to day.
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Interested in self-hosting, decentralization, and learning more about the fediverse.
I also do photography, but with digital cameras from the 90’s.
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- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•The worst part of getting old is that you get less and less "first experiences" and are always comparing current with previous onesEnglish18·14 days ago
One showed up in the glass case of my local Savers somehow last year for ~$800. I was VERY VERY tempted. It was a Type II, with the case, and the finger-loop was intact.
All in all, that’s actually a screamin’ bargain, but I definitely wasn’t in a place to drop $800 +tax on the spot. I thought about it ALL day and the whole next day after, went back after work to buy it, and it was gone. Wasn’t meant to be.
Aw man, you could have waited until July 19th and made a sick callback .
I proposed 2172C as the Pantone color of the year for 2024 lol
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Instagram makes people unhappy and unhappy people use Instagram to show that they are not unhappy.English1·25 days ago
If you use Android, check out “Distraction-free Instagram”. It’s an app that lets you disable various parts of the app like your home feed, stories, etc.
I really wanted to stop scrolling on Instagram, but I also really wanted to keep posting my photography, as the interactions I sometimes get on my posts are fun and I enjoy sharing my craft. I also have some friends who ONLY interact via instagram messaging.
I downloaded the app, and disabled everything except messaging, and it’s been great. It’s definitely made me happier overall.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoscience@lemmy.world•Single psilocybin trip delivers two years of depression relief for cancer patientsEnglish1·28 days ago
I didn’t have depression, but I wanted to try the experience after hearing how much someone I knew enjoyed it. I had a terrible trip (in a safe space, with good intentions, an experienced user I trusted very deeply, etc. etc. etc.) and suddenly developed pretty gnarly depression and felt like an unnamed part of my brain was missing/out of reach for over 2 years… I’m only one data point and my experience seems uncommon, but I definitely won’t be touching shrooms ever again. It’s only in the last 6 or so months that I’ve felt more “myself” and have been making progress out of the hole I was dropped into.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Most of the audience of Nickelodeon's Kids Choice Awards have no idea why slime is a thing.English2·28 days ago
I desperately wanted to be on Figure It Out (With your host, Summer Sanders)
I reference the secret slime action fairly frequently, and it seems that maybe I’m the only person in my area who watched/enjoyed the show, because most people have no idea what I am talking about.
Don’t even get me started on Figure It Out Wild Style.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoThe Onion@midwest.social•Congress, Now More Than Ever, Our Nation Needs Your CowardiceEnglish1·28 days ago
I signed up for the physical print edition at the tail end of last year. They are excellent reading and I have 0 regrets. Well I do have one regret… Not signing up sooner. I missed the November 2024 publication to tie the whole shit-sandwich together.
Their marketing/member emails are also amazing.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Rich people know their cosmetic surgery is obvious and uncanny, but that's the point; it's a way of signalling that you belong in a certain income bracket and that you're part of the 1%English5·1 month ago
It can fall under the same umbrella. Unrealistic beauty standards being set by the “rich”, who some people look up to as role models. If there were something that you could do that you might be able to afford, like botox or lip fillers, that you believe would make you more beautiful, closer to your role model… If that sort of thing matters to you, then yeah, you might go for it. I can even take the same analogy of watches above, because there are definitely cheap imitation versions of the gaudy diamond-encrusted ones.
I was sort of thinking more like this though with respect to extreme alterations…
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Rich people know their cosmetic surgery is obvious and uncanny, but that's the point; it's a way of signalling that you belong in a certain income bracket and that you're part of the 1%English49·1 month ago
It’s definitely a status thing, but I think the extreme it’s been taken to has more to do with an erosion and warping of reasonable beauty standards than anything. More of an act of “because I can” than anything. I think a lot of the people who you look at and think “what the fuck” actually think they are making themselves more beautiful and attractive. I don’t think someone who has everything and can get whatever they want would purposely make themselves look grotesque, but I’m neither rich, nor a psychologist, so maybe I’m totally wrong…
It’s kind of like how there’s a gaudy stupid looking hyper-expensive version of everything, like those giant hideous watches with diamonds encrusted on every surface… Someone think’s it’s beautiful or shows status, but most of us probably just think it looks stupid.
The Bogdanoffification has been happening for a while…
Thanks! Also a bit of fun directly responding to the post before it. I was ultimately inspired by the “allure of the pine forest” post from a bit ago, thinking “Hey, I have some photos that look just like this…”
I think I am going to have fun with this (photo from a ~1999 PDA camera module [original resolution])
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•Why is cottage cheese the only cheese defined by some relationship to a building?English95·1 month ago
Pub cheese would like a word.
For a time in middle school, my brother’s personality could be summed up by “Great Boston Molasses Flood of 1919”… He learned it in a book somewhere and thought it was the funniest thing and just brought it up all the time, drew pictures and comics of it, and just generally was a molasses-themed menace.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•If a sandwich is defined as any food item between two pieces of bread, then a layer cake is a type of sandwich.English2·1 month ago
Also, I think you might be hard-pressed to find anyone who would consider sugary cake sponge to be “bread”. (Something something Ireland’s supreme court ruled that Subway’s bread isn’t legally bread for tax purposes due to its high sugar content)
It’d be like layering up some sourdough slices with sweet sugary icing slathered between them, most people probably wouldn’t call that a cake.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoPiracy: ꜱᴀɪʟ ᴛʜᴇ ʜɪɢʜ ꜱᴇᴀꜱ@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Has anyone pirated their internet?English6·1 month ago
It wasn’t super relevant to the story, but yeah, I could just browse the files right on their PC, definitely a “Not intending to share it for free” kind of situation, completely devoid of any authentication or security.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoTechnology@lemmy.world•Your Brain on ChatGPT: Accumulation of Cognitive Debt when Using an AI Assistant for Essay Writing TaskEnglish15·1 month ago
I’ve actually taken note of my navigational skills over the last couple years… I grew up in one state, and then a few years after graduating college, moved to a different state. When I was growing up, phone navigation didn’t really exist as it does now, cars didn’t have built-in navigation, and standalone navigation devices were slow and not all that great (at least the ones I could afford).
I find that when I return home, even 10 years later, I am able to navigate all the places I used to go unaided with ease, back-roads, niche routes, able to travel for hours without getting “lost”.
When I moved, though, I had very recently gotten my first smartphone, and google maps was very convenient to “learn” the new area. I ended up just continuing to use navigation since it was convenient. I’ve found that beyond the major main routes, I don’t have the same kind of “built-in” navigational skill that I do for my original home-turf. I never really learned the area.
I am moving towards a smart-phone-less life, and I’ve been able to let go of a lot, but GPS navigation remains a sticking point. I need to start training myself to navigate unaided in my current area.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoPiracy: ꜱᴀɪʟ ᴛʜᴇ ʜɪɢʜ ꜱᴇᴀꜱ@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Has anyone pirated their internet?English65·1 month ago
Many many years ago in the paleolithic era when 2.4GHz was king, a neighbor in the next unit over had an unsecured wifi network… I connected my old laptop, figured out where the connection was best (turned out to be beside the stove in the kitchen?), piped the connection out the ethernet port and into the WAN port on my router, and set up my own “secured” network lol. I’m fairly certain anyone with a straight-up unsecured wifi network doesn’t have the skills or knowledge to detect someone leaching their bandwidth. I did that for like 3 years without a single hiccup until I moved and finally had to start paying.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoPC Master Race@lemmy.world•Laptops with coating similar to Thinkpad?English1·1 month ago
My Dell Latitude 7280 has a similar rubbery coating both inside and out, and the keyboard is really nice, similar to Thinkpad keyboards I remember from the past. It’s also got a magnesium chassis, and seems to be quite durable.
I read a bit more of your comments before posting and it seems like you’re looking for a new, more powerful laptop… At least that exact Latitude model is a few years old, and low-power (and small, only 12" screen), but I’ll leave it here as an interesting note. I use it as a field-capture device for my astrophotography camera that can be powered by a big USB C power bank. Works great for that use, and is small thin and light.
- Bags@piefed.socialtoBuildapc@lemmy.world•Sleeper PC Building - Linux for HDR 4K UHD Playback - Recommendations?English1·1 month ago
I am doing a similar thing with a mid-level build in a Dell Dimension 4600 case for my daily driver, but going full deep-end.
My main hurdle right now is RAM. I’m trying to find a 2x16GB set of green RAM with no heat spreader. I happen to have a stinky-poo-poo set of 2x16Gb Samsung 2133 (unknown CAS, but likely terrible). I’d ideally like to have something typical like 3200CL16, but really the only thing I can currently find are all those CL22 sets by Crucial. Does anyone have any other ideas for RAM? I’m thinking of just picking up one of those Crucial sets, it’s probably good enough and certainly better than whatever I’ve got now, but the fact that I can very easily get gamer-y RAM with lame heat-spreaders in exactly the capacity, speed, and CAS I want, but I can’t get it in green… You always want what you can’t have!
I have a single 80mm exhaust fan, and I’ve done some testing, and with the components I have (R5 5500 and RX5700XT), it’s actually not as bad as I expected thermally, and suitably quiet. I am waiting for some more Be-quiet 80mm fans to come in to put one in the front, and also possibly on a hole I have yet to drill in the side-panel…
I’d also never noticed either of the 2 nymph stages before. Heck, I hadn’t seen too many of the adults.
A big nest must have popped because the little black nymphs were EVERYWHERE a little while ago, crawling all over the outside of my apartment building and the tree next to it, I even found a few INSIDE my apartment. Smash smash smash.
The second nymph phase is nice and easy to see with its bright red. Also smash.
It makes me sad how many I am seeing.