It varies in practice. Most people I see using identify, including many trans people, are well-intentioned and think it’s the preferred polite language without thinking too hard on the implications of it.

However there are definitely anti-trans people who will use it pejoratively, which I presume is where that wording originated.

For me I noticed minor benefits after 4 days, and it took about 2 weeks for it to more fully kick in.

Personally the other side effects ended up with me going off it. The focus benefits stayed, though the low mood it turned out it was causing took 3 weeks to go away after I stopped.

my male genitals are not working well

This is a common side effect.

When I previously looked into that, there’s no literature on taking both. However I hear for some people that guanfacine alone is sufficient.

When I was on it I found it helped with distraction, but not task initiation, and the various dosages made no difference. Given that and some of the side effects I ended up going off it.

Guanfacine handled the task initiation for me, but not the distraction.

Nimona and there’s a bit in The Legend of Korra.

For anime there’s Wandering Son (trans), Yuri on Ice (gay, didn’t see the hype myself), and I’m currently working through S1 of Mobile Suit Gundam: The Witch from Mercury which my housemate and I refer to as Space Lesbians - though technically its more bi. I watch subs, so can’t comment on dubs.

https://friture.org/ is the one I’ve been using.

Yes basically, it’s also less complex. Due to this there’s more research data to support it for under 18s than genital surgery.

See the section “Consideration of ages for gender-affirming medical and surgical treatment for adolescents” in WPATH v8 which covers this in depth.

The anti-trans groups champion her book, so I think it’s safe to say that she is not impartial.

For those looking, https://ko-fi.com/blahajzone is in the server description.

There’s also a mispaste of that under the “Empathy” header of that description.

This is called the “bus rule” around here, you don’t sit beside someone if there’s a still a set of seats you can have to yourself.

I’d be more worried if they did sit beside you, as that’d be considered a bit creepy.

The downside is that the adverse effects of the meds can prevent you from being able to do much, so its about finding just the right dosage for your body.

In my experience it is still possible, and you can even get a bit more control as to what you hyperfocus on.

I know the feeling of medication sucking, I’m 11 months in on finding the right medications and think I’ve finally hit the end of that journey. My body is weird in fun ways including, it turns out, being extremely sensitive to stimulants. The first bout of tachycardia was not fun, but by the fourth one it’s more an annoyance on the pathway to finding the right medication. These days I even need to be careful if/when I have my single cup of caffeinated tea per day. For me 3mg Intuniv and 5mg methylphenidate hydrochloride instant release in the morning seems to be optimal, the former for task initiation the latter for distraction. The methylphenidate often is still working through to the following morning.

I got to my late 30s before even realising I had ADHD (the gender dysphoria I also didn’t realise I had didn’t help), and by then had independently developed basically all of the standard coping strategies:

• I always update my calendar with events, for example booking my next dental appointment is in there as a recurring event
• I have a big todo list always open on my computer to add things on, both to page out things from my brain and to track things I want to do (with deadlines where there is one). This will often duplicate the calendar events.
• Internally, even with the above I still fret about not missing events. So it is extremely rare that I will miss an event.
• I have a running shopping list on my phone, great for ensuring I don’t miss something. Or buy something I’ve already gotten a replacement for.
• I have a reasonable food/groceries stockpile, so even if I forget to buy say flour I’ve pretty much always an extra bag which’ll give me a few weeks/months grace
• I keep some easily cooked frozen food in the freezer for the days I’m just not up to cooking properly
• I avoid buying food which I know I’d snack on excessively
• I will place things so I remember tasks. If I need to say wash my clothes, I’ll leave the basin out on the kitchen table to remind me.
• The only bills I don’t pay automatically are ones where the provider doesn’t offer that
• If my brain gets distracted and I move off a thought/task, my brain cycles though things fast enough that I’ll usually come across it again within a few hours and then handle it - plus remember that I forgot it so will be more driven not to get distracted again

One of the issues I face is that if there something that I feel must be done (e.g. take my meds, following some of the above coping strategies, or do some specific work with a deadline) I will do so via sheer force of will even if that ends up harming my mental health. I am a bit better at managing my workload these days.

The fact that despite all of the above strategies and being objectively and outwardly very successful, that ADHD was clearly a major detriment to my life and mental health is why I aggressively sought medication.

Realising that ADHD was the culprit for many of my behaviours also helped, so I now roll with my brain jumping all over the place rather than beating myself up over it and other ADHD behaviours. So for example if I have an idea for doing something that’s stuck in my mind, I’m just going to do it and not try to force myself to do the task I was “meant” to do.

I hope some of that is useful to you.

I’m sure the GDPR won’t cause them any problems in that regard, just like there haven’t been repeated rulings from the ECJ that that’s not okay to do with Facebook user data.

My main mastodon uses one of the hosted services, which I’m totally fine with. Moderating a community is hard enough without adding extra sysadmin work on top, and I’m happy to donate towards the running costs whatever way the admins choose is best to run it.

I gather you’re in the US, so https://thegalap.org/ may be of use.

https://diyhrt.wiki/transfem is one good resource you should read.

I’d recommend finding local trans groups to help you do so safely (e.g. knowing the reputable suppliers, injection training, how to get blood tests).

One of the other confounding factors potentially is that this is from those who first got HRT from gender clinics, so would exclude those who were driven to self-med or go private.

That’s probably pg/ml, in which case the “official” target is 100-200. The more important question is if your T is suppressed, which is <50 ng/dl.

Usually feminising HRT decreases sweating, however as with all things trans medicine it can vary a lot by person.