Fun fact: I don’t blame Russians for Putin.

Truth.

I’ve got kids and pets and I work with kids at an emergency shelter. Getting locked up means I could lose my job, which means I’d lose my shelter and my pets, maybe my kids…all because I decided to protest something that no politician in my area will even pay attention to.

I do protest sometimes, but I’m waiting. When there are things I can help with, I do that. But I’m not traveling several hours to get to a protest so I can get beat by cops, arrested, and potentially lose everything. This is a marathon, not a sprint…and I need to be able to help those who are already being left behind.

But my heart is with those who can protest. I share their stories when I see them. I make signs for them and have a kit to help anyone who gets hurt during a local protest. I walk and protest myself when I’m able…but yeah, I can’t go to every single one.

Hey…just need to put this out there.

I’m sorry my government has the dumb. I am so, so embarrassed by how things are going and how horribly rude my so-called “leaders” are being to literally everyone.

I am not like that. I respect you and your country. I want to cry when I think about how Zelenskyj has been treated. I know many, many people just like me. We are NOT like our government. We are scared. Some of us are trying to get out of the country, but many of us literally cannot…for a host of reasons, many of which involve how little money we have been able to save while this is all happening.

I’m just so sorry. Not that this fixes anything. I’m just desperate to tell SOMEONE that. I hope you have a good day…and rest easier knowing I echo every sentiment of your post.

Ooo, also Our Flag Means Death, only 2 seasons but such a great show.

What We Do In The Shadows, delightful and so wrong on so many levels…lol

Someone else already said it, but I agree so strongly, I gotta restate…Reservation Dogs…heart-warming and with great character arcs.

It is so unbelievably good…on Hulu. Well worth checking out!

Pushing Daisies is simply delightful and whimsical.

The Magicians is an epic story with highly entertaining characters and a full storyline with an actual ending.

Loudermilk is a witty and heartfelt look at people trying to get by while also dealing with their alcoholism.

Sandman is masterfully done, a visual treat, regardless of whether you’re a fan of the comic.

Your cat is a Disney Princess!

Thank you! They are my heart…

Your comments in this thread make you sound controlling and judgmental, but I don’t think you’re trying to be. I think you feel strongly about this and think she’s making a mistake…but that’s the thing: This is HER mistake to make. It sounds like your wife wants time to process this, but you are pressuring her to tell him immediately. You are so sure she should be honest with him about this, you make comments about comparing her not telling on her mother’s affair results (her dad not fathering her) with her cheating on you. That’s such a low blow, I’m surprised you didn’t pick up on the controlling/manipulative vibe yourself.

I get that you feel strongly about this. But it is NOT your relationship and not your consequences. If she tells him and their fragile relationship implodes…YOU will share the blame. If she takes the time she needs and decides he can handle it, and their relationship implodes…she will not blame you for it.

Just listen to her, like really listen. Don’t listen for ways to argue that she should do what you want her to do…just hear her. Let her process this and make her own decision. She is the one risking her dad here, not you. Let her figure it out. Repeat what she says so she can hear it…don’t add judgmental tones. Just be there and let her do the deciding.

Dude, you focused on 1 sentence and missed the point.

#1 It is Your WIFE’S relationship. Stay out of it unless she asks for advice.

#2 Your wife knows her dad better than you do. Trust her.

#3 Biology does not make a parent. She believes her genetics is irrelevant to her relationship with her father. She’s probably right. Odds are that he’s suspected she’s biologically not his for a while anyway.

#4 He took the test, too. He knows. Knowing that she knows and is still seeking him out as though nothing has changed probably means the world to him. No need to confront something they both are ignoring.

#5 Your wife is a full-grown, functioning adult with a mature relationship with her father. She can make these decisions without your assistance. Quit it.

Also, if you undermine this and leak it in any way, she has every right to leave you. This could be divorce-worthy behavior.

Stay. Out. Of. Her. Relationship. With. Her. Dad.

You are NTA. Someone spying on you to prove you skipped their lame attention-seekinh shindig, is TA.

“Plans changed and I didn’t have the energy to be social.” Plus, once you’ve RSVP’d not going, it is rude to then show up…so remember that if he pushes for more.

Or you could level with him and explain you didn’t enjoy watching him flaunt his wealth, so you took your attitude and stayed home…because that is the nice thing to do.

But regardless, remember you are not obligated to hang out just because you are invited. It is okay to say you have other plans…even if they are literally just to stay home. Totally valid. NTA.