https://tailscale.com/kb/1054/dns

I think your options are mainly virtualization or something like this

Virtualization is definitely easiest though; there’s a transmission docker image out there that’s preconfigured for a ton of VPN providers, including mullvad. It can be touchy to get working but is amazing when it does work.

mean I wouldn’t doubt it, it’s just something from my saved posts on reddit. Even if it is AI generated, I still think it’s a cool wallpaper and wanted to share ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯

A good frame of reference would be the VPS that lemmy.world is running on imo. Looks like they upgraded to a 4 core/16gb setup to handle the influx of users, so if your instance is running under 1k users, I believe those specs would be sufficient.

If it starts chugging, I wonder how well it’d work to run the server on the laptop and the DB on a VPS (or vice versa).