Writer, poet, creative dabbler, geek, cycling and star trek fan. Tends to ramble on about things she likes.

(the username was a suggestion from a url generator for a writing related website, and I immediately made it my nickname all over the internet)

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • The only way to build towards a dream like that is two things, imho

    1. Save money. Take high paying jobs you may not like much to just save up.

    2. Learn. Read books on gardening, on simple living, on maintaining and restoring a home, and watch YouTubers who live the life you want to live and see the downsides of it too. (For the latter, Tyler and Todd might be a good fit, they are building a container home in the middle of the woods and they do show the setbacks as well as the triumphs)



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    This could be me. I first really fell in love in my thirties. Before that I had book boyfriends. Characters who I related to because of how they were written.

    I didn’t know what aromantic/asexual was at the time, but they both fit me. I’m now married to a man who is my best friend and who accepts me as I am.

    And being aro/ace doesn’t mean that I don’t have feelings. I do. I just have no idea whatsoever on how to express them and still feel like me, I guess?




  • Came here to answer PTerry too. I cherish his books (going to re-read them all again soon). I love the way he gave the fantasy genre an unadulterated joy. His books are the only ones that can make me cry with laughter, even on trains where I try to behave 😀 Also, he’s the only author who made me want to read footnotes 😂

    The world got a little darker when he died.









  • My plans for August

    I may have to finish up my July office declutter, but in August I want to mostly focus on decluttering my wardrobe and off season storage.

    I still have too many clothes in my wardrobe. I want to apply these two rules:

    1. apply project 333 (33 items of clothing for 3 months at a time). 33 is doable, and I welcome the ease that brings.

    2. I may only keep clothes that fit and look good on me. I do have clothes that fit me but look like I’m wearing a potato sack. I deserve clothes that make me feel confident!





  • I once managed to trip over a 5 cm metal ledge that I only noticed when I kicked into it while walking into a parking garage.

    I fell over, fell on a knee that was just healed after another less stupid fall and scraped both hands badly too when I tried to break my fall.

    So stupid!

    Oh and it was after a concert and there were a lot of people present just watching me get up, crying in pain.

    So it was my most embarrassing one too.


  • There definitely is a difference. A gut feeling aka intuition comes without emotion. It just is like a knowing something for sure but not knowing why.

    I trust my gut feelings implicitly. My emotions? Not so much. Emotions are always fleeting. There one minute, gone the next. Anxiety replays old fears time and time again.

    When I think about or see rollercoasters for instance, I immediately am afraid. When I ask myself why, I remember instantly what I felt when I had an asthma attack in the middle of a rollercoaster ride. That fear replays as something new but isn’t.

    I’ve read a lot about emotions and emotional wellbeing, I guess that’s why I’ve learned to tell the difference


  • When I look back on my life, I always regret things I did out of fear or anxiety or any other emotions.

    Trusting my gut, however, always led to the best for me in the long run.

    In your case, did you follow your gut when heading home?

    Also, your gut feelings are maybe muddled by emotions about the breakup, which is logical.

    So give yourself some time to weigh your options and let your family and friends help you as well?


  • I agree. Avery Brooks is stellar in the series and one of my favourites of all trek. I really hate that there never was a movie showing if Sisko ever got back from the prophets and what happened to Jake and Cassidy and their unborn child.

    It was told beautifully in the season 8 books, but I would have loved to have seen it!

    As for episodes Avery is stellar in, I would count Past Tense as well. It’s such an underrated duology and Avery is truly magnificent in it.