That’s my personal view obviously. But from porn to written erotica, in my experience, cock caging and pegging themes tend to fall towards humilliation/emasculation scenarios.
Which I find strange.
Those are things I enjoy and tried in real life. It had nothing to do with that kind of setting.
I spent a week caged and it was one of the most sensual times of my life. The attention from my partner, the daily care, the maintenance, everything led to a very sexually charged week. If I was “deprived” of that part of my body, so was my partner.
And the same with pegging. We both enjoy anal play. Plugs, dildos, etc. Pegging sort of came naturally from it. I enjoy it and my partner really enjoys getting me off like that.
No humilliation, emasculation or anything like it ever involved.
What are your thoughts on this association?
I mean… I like it. Socially obfuscated power dynamics, especially gendered ones, have caused me a lot of discomfort and confusion. BDSM stimulates me because it’s exciting and cathartic to drop the complicated, ambiguous facade of hierarchical etiquette and engage with power directly. I enjoy it in both directions but usually only one way with a particular person. There is some objective power delta between any two subjects. Either embracing or defying it can be satisfying. It’s about clarity.