• @[email protected]
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    This is is patriarchy in real time. He’s attacking that guy’s masculinity as a public reminder that real men enforce gender norms even in the most intimate relationships. It’s preying on insecurity to control men to control women.

    This kind of gender enforcement is pretty common for boys aged 4 until death. The trick of the true oppressor is to get you to surveil yourself.

    • @[email protected]
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      26 hours ago

      I love this notion that “you’re not a real man” unless you do what real men tell you to. That is gold.

    • Funkytom467
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      To be honest it’s not just patriarchy anymore.

      Nowadays conservative agenda serves the elite only.

      Meanwhile this controlling hurt most mens as well. Pushing them to only value themselves through work, to repress feelings for productivity… all of it makes for more servile workers.

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      Allow me to share a small personal story. An anecdote, as it is often called.

      I was home for ten years with my children. I changed diapers, took care of meals and chores, and when it was time for it, I took my children to pre-school.

      Being a stay at home father, being present for my children, was trampled on by teachers and the mothers of other children. It was disrespectful, demeaning. I was unwelcomed and unwanted. Some even tried to create a narrative that I was a danger to the children.

      Women were more vitriolic and systematic in their gender affirmation than men.

      That is extremely sad and telling.

      The guy in the post is an idiot and being told to shut up and told off, followed by perhaps a couple of punches to the teeth would be enough to get him to stay quiet.

      Women would not be so easy to handle.

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        This right here is why I think trans rights hits so hard for so many people. Despite most not even knowing anyone trans.

        That targeted harassment against men is for minor stuff like being a good father. Having never met a trans woman, people assume they are “really a man”. It also doesn’t help that the most visible trans people are early on in the process. So they see a man who has way overshot those gender norms and that harassment goes to extreme levels. Despite them being an actual woman and not playing that game.

        This is just one example of how trans rights affect everyone. If someone can completely change genders without any harassment then people like stay at home dads can live in peace as well.

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        I am of the belief that a woman would respond similarly to a couple punches to the teeth. ,Fuck around and find out. I’m not enforcing gender roles out here.

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          The societal reaction though would be very different and in favour of the woman. For an example a few months ago some English tourist was in Sydney, got annoyed at some guy waving a flag around her, sucker punched the guy in the head from behind, and received one punch back plus a free broken jaw as her prize.

          Now check out how it was reported - it’s all about how bad it was for the man to punch a woman and the pretty important fact of her assaulting the man before getting said punch is mentioned once in passing (and it being a punch from behind with the man not aware is not mentioned at all, which is relevant because this is normally highlighted as a ‘coward punch’ in Australian media).

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            I fully agree with you, I’m just starting my personal belief and the course of action I would likely take if the person was being exceptionally dim.

        • qyron
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          You see that happen?

          If it was a man doing it, it would be called assault. Another woman would be called out for not being proper and, again, assault.

          Hard to uproot these bad actors.

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      It takes strength and confidence to go against societal expectations. If anything I would say the man’s living his best life and nobody is going to peer pressure him into being miserable.

      The men pressuring others are miserable themselves and are only so uptight about it because someone forced that on them. It’s like some weird chain of people not minding their own business because if they can’t be free nobody can.

      • Flying Squid
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        I mean he’s married to an extremely successful woman who is worth, according to my searching, $1.4 billion.

        I’d stay home with the kids too. Please be my sugar mommy, hot billionaire. I will live in your luxury mansion if all it takes is changing diapers and stuff.

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          I’ve told my wife more than once that if her earning potential was higher than mine, I would happily be a stay at home dad. She loves being a SAHM though so I doubt she would be cool with that.

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      THERES NOTHING MORE STRAIGHT THAN BEING THE ALPHA MALE IN A SEA OF OTHER MALES.

      DOMINATE THE WEAKER MALES.

      MAKE THEM KNOW THEIR PLACE.

      DO NOT THINK ABOUT THEIR NON-ALPHA PENISES OR THEIR CUTE LITTLE BUTTS.

      FOR YOU, YOU ARE THE MOST ALPHA OF ALPHAS.