I’m asexual but I enjoy feeling horny so I dabble in chastity. I find that I stop feeling horny after about 2 weeks and don’t really desire an orgasm anymore. Do other people experience chastity similarly or is this another difference from being ace? I’ve not gone longer than a month really so maybe, as someone suggested the other day, it comes in waves?
For me, I start to peak between day 3-4. The end of day 4 is probably the apex of desire and frustration. After that, frustration sort of levels off at much lower levels because acceptance starts to settle in, then it’s just a feeling of annoyance because wearing a cage is inconvenient.
Getting into the 3+ week time frame, I just feel full and want a release, but there’s not a whole lot of desire for sex or playfulness, just release. I haven’t experienced any waves or changes past that time frame.
I recognize a week is probably too often for people in this community who are trying to train for much longer time frames for various reasons, but that’s what seems to work best to maximize the effects my wife is trying to achieve. She has really gotten into the whole Locktober thing and has been pretty strict about doing the whole month the past few years, even though it’s sort of suboptimal for us. I think she likes the community aspect and the tradition.
Anyway, my point was that I tend to peak way before 3 weeks.
I also experienced something like this in the weeks after my horniness peaked. I ruined an orgasm after a long streak of abstinence. And, I felt extremely relaxed afterwards, like feeling satiated after not eating for a long time, peeing after not being able to for a long time, sitting after standing, coming in out of the cold, etc. Hearing what you said, and reflecting on my experience, I think not coming at some point past the peak of horniness felt less sexual and more just like a generic biological drive. I could definitely see that sort of phase being suboptimal for couples who aren’t trying to suppress the “desire for sex or playfulness” (as you perfectly put it) of the person wearing the cage