For the past couple of months, I’ve been trying an experiement. I’ve decided not to be touching myself, not even for a little relief, not to help me sleep, not at all.
I’m doing this for my other half, who hasn’t asked me to refrain from self-abuse, who wouldn’t have thought to ask about it, and was even mildly horrified when I explained to her what I was doing. My other half is a poweful person in life, she leads people at work, she grows food at home, she raises chickens, she learns fast and cannot be stopped. However, behind closed doors, she wants someone to take charge. She doesn’t want to decide what we are going to do, she wants someone else to be in charge for a while.
Not touching myself has made me a little… intense. Loud. Maybe a little demanding. And she’s been enjoying it immensely, to the point where we have to take a couple of nights a week off to recover.
Being the dominant partner is completely new for me, so I’m having to work at it. An example: the wife is in to CNC/rape play, and I’m a bit uncomfortable with it. But she wanted it. Cue me, sitting in the car outside of our house after work, trying to get it together well enough that I could do what she wanted. I made it happen, and we had fun, but I’m more of a soft dom.
For the past couple of months, I’ve been trying an experiement. I’ve decided not to be touching myself, not even for a little relief, not to help me sleep, not at all.
I’m doing this for my other half, who hasn’t asked me to refrain from self-abuse, who wouldn’t have thought to ask about it, and was even mildly horrified when I explained to her what I was doing. My other half is a poweful person in life, she leads people at work, she grows food at home, she raises chickens, she learns fast and cannot be stopped. However, behind closed doors, she wants someone to take charge. She doesn’t want to decide what we are going to do, she wants someone else to be in charge for a while.
Not touching myself has made me a little… intense. Loud. Maybe a little demanding. And she’s been enjoying it immensely, to the point where we have to take a couple of nights a week off to recover.
Very hot stuff! I should try that next and really lean into my dominant nature with partners.
Being the dominant partner is completely new for me, so I’m having to work at it. An example: the wife is in to CNC/rape play, and I’m a bit uncomfortable with it. But she wanted it. Cue me, sitting in the car outside of our house after work, trying to get it together well enough that I could do what she wanted. I made it happen, and we had fun, but I’m more of a soft dom.
Being dominant takes practice, it would appear.
You sound like a good partner. I enjoy being a pleasure dom a lot. I’m not sure I could be “mean” even if it’s just acting.
Yeah the “being mean” is difficult and I don’t nornally do it. But if she wants me to drag her to bed I’m going to do it.
I’m glad someone has mentioned wanking in the context of helping get some sleep. I thought it was just me!!
I would say I do that at least once every couple of weeks. It used to be several times a week, but I’ve gotten better at getting to sleep in general.
It’s still my go-to if I can’t get to sleep.