Hear me out. First, I know sex isn’t everything and I know that hooking up and getting laid isn’t going to solve deeper needs and insecurities that I am working on.
That said, I’m also getting out of a long and bad relationship that has left me feeling like I missed so many experiences and opportunities in what ultimately were the final years of my 20s.
I never really properly figured out dating or hooking up. Even though it’s not literally true, I feel like the only person I’ve been with is someone where we skipped straight to “serious long term relationship” which not only contributed to why we didn’t work out, but also kind of stunted my development when it comes to romance and sex.
So now I’m trying to take a step back and just kind of loosen up and have fun in a way I feel I never have before. I do want to develop real connections and long term relationships, but I also want a bit of time away from that first.
Only problem is, I have no clue how and I do feel just a bit old for it. I’m on Tinder and frankly it just feels like nobody is interested.
0ne of my friends used to sleep around a lot. He’s not bad looking, but he said the trick to having more one night stands is that most people still in the bar after 2am when it’s gone quiet are hoping for sex, and women who are less attractive are more willing sexual partners. That was before dating apps really took off, because he settled down a while ago. Your milage may vary, but he’s the only one of my friends who really had a man slut phase and that’s what he said about it.