One of the admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone asked us to purge a community and all of its users because they thought it was full of child sexual abuse material, aka CSAM, fka kiddy porn. We assured them that we had checked this comm thoroughly and we were satisfied that all of the models on it were of age.

The admin then demanded we purge the comm because they mistook it for CSAM, and claimed that the entire point of the community was to make people think it was CSAM. We vehemently disagreed that that was in fact the point of the community, but they decided to defederate from us anyway. That is of course their choice, but we will not purge our communities or users because someone else makes a mistake of fact, and then lays the responsibility for their mistake at our feet.

If someone made a community intended to fool people into thinking it was kiddy porn, that would be a real problem. If someone of age goes online and pretends – not roleplays, but pretends with intent to deceive – to be a child and makes porn, that is a real problem. Nobody here is doing that.

One of the reasons we run our instance the way that we do is that we want it to be inclusive. We don’t body shame, and we believe that all adults have a right to sexual expression. That means no adult on our instance is too thin, fat, bald, masculine, old, young, cis, gay, etc., to be sexy, and that includes adults that look younger than some people think they should. Everyone has a right to lust and to be lusted after. There’s no way to draw a line that says “you can’t like adult people that look like X” without crossing a line that we will not cross.

EDIT: OK, closing this post to new comments. Everything that needs saying has been said. Link to my convo with the blahaj admin here.

  • @[email protected]
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    211 year ago

    Yeah their reasoning for defederating is kinda dumb, but luckily anyone can just make a separate account for lemmynsfw so nothing really is lost. I kinda don’t even see why someone would leave nsfw enabled on their main account, like do you wanna have sexy photos mixed in with your news, cat pictures, Hobby-communities?

    • @[email protected]
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      261 year ago

      Maybe I’m a weirdo but I actually prefer nsfw stuff on my main account too. Most of my feed on the old site was distressing news (climate change, war, politics etc) and made me feel awful in the way social media is uniquely adept at.

      On Lemmy I still see that stuff but it’s interspersed with boobs, which I find really lifts my mood

    • Mikey Mongol OPMA
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      171 year ago

      I mean, this is my main account.

    • Nubbly
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      161 year ago

      Most news seems to be doom and gloom so I enjoy the occasional tit pic thrown in there to break up the stream of depressing content.

      Obviously I would just turn off nsfw when in public, but otherwise having it mixed in is nice.

      • @[email protected]
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        41 year ago

        Honestly, one of my biggest gripes was when Reddit removed nsfw content from r/all instead of using the “don’t show nsfw content” switch, or defaulting to r/popular which was supposed to be the sfw replacement.

        Like you said, having the occasional happy little titty in between dire commentary on the state of the world and climate just helped make things a little brighter.

    • @catgirl
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      111 year ago

      There are a couple nsfw communities on lemmy.blahaj.zone. It’s a very lgbt, sex positive server. I will miss being able to see them from here though

      • @VladOfRivea
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        81 year ago

        You can still see them from here. Defederation is one-way. It just means, if you comment/vote on any post from there, the comment won’t spread to other instances.

        • @catgirl
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          41 year ago

          I was under the impression that servers would push posts to other servers, and defederating would stop that

          • @VladOfRivea
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            21 year ago

            From my (admittedly limited) understanding, the servers pull posts when someone requests them rather than them being actively pushed, which happens regardless of federation status since all those posts and comments are publicly accessible. It was part of the whole “defederate meta’s Threads” debate.

            • @PubSubSwitch
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              41 year ago

              It’s like spokes on a wheel rather than peer to peer. Defederation means it stops pulling content in. So folks from other instances besides lemmynsfw.com won’t see comments made from lemmynsfw.com on blahaj communities. Only folks from lemmynsfw.com will.

    • Arobanyan
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      01 year ago

      Depends on the sexiness of the photo really