Misread the title of the other post which made me think of this question.
I, as a male, have had multiple women ask me how we ride bikes without smashing our balls.
Misread the title of the other post which made me think of this question.
I, as a male, have had multiple women ask me how we ride bikes without smashing our balls.
One that used to really grind my gears was “oh, you’re babysitting today?”
No, they’re my kids. I’m their father.
“No, I mean, you’re giving Mom a break?”
FFS.
They have no fucking clue what they’re saying either
Honestly with how oblivious most men are to the amount of work the average mother does, this is not a weird or stupid question. Insensitive, sure. Traditional gender roles still spill over into conversation, especially with older folks. The absolute least a father can do is aim to carry an equal share of the load of having children. The bitter reality is that this does not happen nearly as much as it should, hence comments like these.
Moms are underrated as fuck.
I find that these “bare minimum” assertions often crumble upon contact with any real-life scenario
Absolutely. That bare minimum is a distant unreachable fantasy for some married moms I know.
I don’t get it myself. I wanted to be a father for a long time and since I became one I’ve been loving it. Because you know, I wanted the relationship and all that rather than “you’re supposed to have kids.” It’s sad enough when people do that with dogs, never mind tiny vulnerable humans.
Piss off
Ta yeule.
Depends on the situation. I’m working and my wife is currently a SAHM because the little one is quite tiny indeed. When I get home after work I take the baby off her hands for a while because I KNOW my wife had a more exhausting day than I did because of the little
demonsangels. And anything the 3yo needs, I’ll be there for her so she doesn’t bother mom with everything.Sometimes it does feel like I’m babysitting or giving her a break, because she for sure spends way more time and energy on them throughout the day.
Ok, you just struck a nerve here, that shit drive me crazy.
I’m a first time father of a 6 months old and I love him to death. I want to spend every waking moment with him so I take up as much “baby works” as possible since his birth. Bath, feeding, changing, play, exercise, going outside, doctor appointments, I do all those things.
And EVERY SINGLE GODDAMN TIME I got asked “where’s the mother?”, “Is she busy today so you’re babysitting?”, “Why you have to babysit today?”
HAVE TO? BITCH! This is my fuckin pleasure, I’m craving it, I’m addicted to this little poop machine. GTFO!
I want to yell at their face “THIS IS MY SON, I LOVE HIM, CAN’T I JUST BE WITH HIM!?”
My wife admitted that I do a much better job taking care of our baby. I am kind of “extra careful” type of person and I’ve been taking care of foster newborn kittens for a decade, and believe it or not but some skills does transfer over. Infants is basically function on pure instinct, and I’m damn good at anticipate it. I can accurately translate my son’s cry 90% of the time. He has 3 distinct cries for hungry, sleep, and diaper change, then later another “i’m bored” cry.
My wife would often call me on the phone to have me listen to his crying and ask what’d he want.
I’m a damn good father and I’m proud to take care of him. I don’t have to do it, I GET TO do it!
Brother, you got it exactly. Being a parent isn’t a chore I’m doing, it’s my primary vocation.