A child with one loving parent is better off than a child with any number of disgruntled uninvested parents.
A single mom who goes through all the effort that IVF requires is someone who REALLY wants children. That’s someone who will appreciate the gift of parenthood and make sure that they don’t waste it.
I’m more concerned with the children that were forced to be born against their parents’ wishes. Those children will be seen as a burden that was forced upon their parents. They will be resented, and more likely to be neglected or abused. They will grow up never learning what love and kindness is, and they will take that hatred and spread it into the world, or give up on themselves and turn to drugs, or an abusive relationship.
Your 100% right I was not wanted and it showed by how I was raised and how I raised my children. I was a better father than my dad but not by much. It is hard to get away from the way you were raised to see the world and how there are better ways to parent.
You also learn as an adult that there are better families and not ever home is this way.
That’s the difference between my first and second marriage in a nutshell. Moving away (psychologically, not physically) from all the horrible shit I grew up with and thinking that was normal to having a better understanding of what I want to have in my life and some idea of how to get there.
A child with one loving parent is better off than a child with any number of disgruntled uninvested parents.
A single mom who goes through all the effort that IVF requires is someone who REALLY wants children. That’s someone who will appreciate the gift of parenthood and make sure that they don’t waste it.
I’m more concerned with the children that were forced to be born against their parents’ wishes. Those children will be seen as a burden that was forced upon their parents. They will be resented, and more likely to be neglected or abused. They will grow up never learning what love and kindness is, and they will take that hatred and spread it into the world, or give up on themselves and turn to drugs, or an abusive relationship.
Your 100% right I was not wanted and it showed by how I was raised and how I raised my children. I was a better father than my dad but not by much. It is hard to get away from the way you were raised to see the world and how there are better ways to parent.
That’s the difference between my first and second marriage in a nutshell. Moving away (psychologically, not physically) from all the horrible shit I grew up with and thinking that was normal to having a better understanding of what I want to have in my life and some idea of how to get there.