well, unfortunately I guess I would choose neither. I can’t do anal because it hurts them too much and they’re not a fan of cum so watching them gag and try to get it down isn’t a turn on for me (I know it is for some, but unfortunately the gagging porn completely throws me off). A really sloppy oily handi would be nice, maybe even a finger up the bum but they don’t like doing that either lol.

Idk, are people actually ok with having someone perform a sexual act on them the other person doesn’t enjoy? Is the premise that it’s a special treat because they don’t enjoy it or just don’t have the time for it? I very much need constant enjoyment from my partner during sex or I stop. That whole “letting me finish” thing isn’t my shtick.