Maybe what we want is to not have to tell you what we want, lol. But yeah it takes some of the pleasure out of it if the guy isn’t paying enough attention to know, I guess. Like it’s a skill and a valuable one.

It’s not actually a straight male/female split - I notice that my husband will ask for things and is really just asking, yes or no is ok; I tend not to ask unless I actually need something. I do think his way is more reasonable but I can anticipate for him and would consider him smarter if he could do that too, if that makes sense.

Are you good at giving gifts? It’s a similar skill IMO, the paying attention.