Because sometime like seven(ish) years ago (I don’t remember exactly), I was hanging out with a totally platonic female friend of mine; and we were already talking (completely matter of fact) about categorically anything sexual, and already asking each other similar questions; and I asked her that, and she said she couldn’t really tell me that offhand because she’d never really thought about it; and I said okay, and then she just never got back to me (about that specifically), even though we’re still friends and we still talk (she probably just forgot I ever asked her that, which is understandable); and even though we’d already talked about other things that are at least as personal before I asked her that, I would still feel somewhat awkward bringing it up again the better part of a decade later, for some reason.
I also feel like it’s somewhat of a normal question.
Fair enough. I thought this was some Reddit re-post or something. I mean that information is easy to google…
But I’d agree. It’s really hard to concentrate in that moment and do a good job in tracking time. I don’t know my exact time either. I’d say it’s about 10 seconds? Could as well be 5 or 15, I don’t really know. Supposedly it’s longer for women? But I guess that varies a lot from person to person. And maybe also with the exact situation.
Because sometime like seven(ish) years ago (I don’t remember exactly), I was hanging out with a totally platonic female friend of mine; and we were already talking (completely matter of fact) about categorically anything sexual, and already asking each other similar questions; and I asked her that, and she said she couldn’t really tell me that offhand because she’d never really thought about it; and I said okay, and then she just never got back to me (about that specifically), even though we’re still friends and we still talk (she probably just forgot I ever asked her that, which is understandable); and even though we’d already talked about other things that are at least as personal before I asked her that, I would still feel somewhat awkward bringing it up again the better part of a decade later, for some reason.
I also feel like it’s somewhat of a normal question.
Especially here.
Your comment made me immediately think of “well let’s try it now and time it”
Fair enough. I thought this was some Reddit re-post or something. I mean that information is easy to google…
But I’d agree. It’s really hard to concentrate in that moment and do a good job in tracking time. I don’t know my exact time either. I’d say it’s about 10 seconds? Could as well be 5 or 15, I don’t really know. Supposedly it’s longer for women? But I guess that varies a lot from person to person. And maybe also with the exact situation.