Many sissies go through “cycles” in which their desires rise, then peak, then crash, only to repeat all over again weeks or months later. Here is a graphic a friend of mine made illustrating the concept of cycles
Is it possible that this binge-and-purge cycle could be overcome by intentionally suppressing sissy urges when at the peak of a cycle? That way, sissies would be less likely to make impulsive decisions they’d regret. Instead, they would focus on self-improvement and everyday responsibilities.
Likewise, when they’re at the bottom of a cycle, sissies could promote their desires by watching their favorite hypnos and doing other things they enjoy (in moderation, of course).
In this way, sissies wouldn’t shoot themselves in the foot by overindulging, and so they wouldn’t go through long periods of regret and purging before their desires rise again. In theory, they could stay in a pleasant sissy mindset forever! Here is a much cruder graphic I made to illustrate how the cycles could be “fixed”
What do you gurls think? I know this is a very experimental method and may not work for everyone, but does it have potential?
Great post !! I really like the concept of cycling because it fits so well with what I’ve seen in myself and others’ reports in online sissy spaces! I think the terms overindulgence and male-mode might be more widely applicable than bingeing and purging though, which I tend to associate with newer, heterosexually-identified sissies. I also really like your idea of ‘squishing’ the curve to stay in the comfortable sissy zone/ sweet spot.
For me, I don’t place equal value on squishing the peaks and valleys. Squishing the valley (that is trying to leave male-mode for comfortable sissy zone) isn’t something I think I really need to manage. So long as my life isn’t on fire, I will eventually get turned on and get back into sissy things if I’ve fallen out of them. I like your list of things to try out. The only thing I’d add is “do sissy things that you know turn you on” (other than porn and hypnos). For me these’d be wear thongs and bras, paint my nails, remove some body hair.
I think the best way of dealing with male-mode is not ending up there in the first place ☺️! And so I’m very interested in squishing the peak (that is, staying in comfortable sissy zone and not crashing into male-mode). For me, I think two things cause me to crash into male-mode: penile stimulation-induced orgasms which can lead to post-nut disinterest, and my non-sissy life becoming unmanageable due to neglect and therefore I’m forced to put down sissy stuff and take care with non-sissy stuff. But the major reason is a penis orgasm. I wonder if others feel the same way. (I think I love and need femme/sub sex, but I can effectively trick myself long-term into forgetting this need through wanking while fantasizing about sissy/cuckold things. Although this is easy to do, I find it increasingly unsatisfactory and want to discover and lean into ‘the real me’). So, for me, suppressing the peak is essentially not wanking and avoiding situations where I become ‘desperate to wank’. That’s probably how I’d frame avoiding overindulgence.
Your recommendation to avoid brash decisions is another good one, as is sublimate sissy desires to reinforce everyday responsibilities. I might suggest a general self-check-in. Like, if you’ve been in sissy mode for a while just asking yourself “is everything in my life okay right now for me to continue my sissy focus or is there something I should deal with”? As another one, sublimate instant-gratification sissy things for longer-term gratification sissy things. Instead of looking at porn, have a girly bath, do a mani/pedi, work on other sissy goals, and/or socialize with other sissies. Thanks for the great post!
I think the terms overindulgence and male-mode might be more widely applicable than bingeing and purging though
I agree! I see the word “purge” used a lot, but I don’t really purge.
Squishing the valley (that is trying to leave male-mode for comfortable sissy zone) isn’t something I think I really need to manage. So long as my life isn’t on fire, I will eventually get turned on and get back into sissy things if I’ve fallen out of them.
I get that too, that’s totally fine. As long as you have a balance of taking care of your responsibilities and enjoying what you’re doing~
For me these’d be wear thongs and bras, paint my nails, remove some body hair.
These habits can be great for those trying to keep up a sissy appearance even when their desire is low!
For me, I think two things cause me to crash into male-mode: penile stimulation-induced orgasms which can lead to post-nut disinterest, and my non-sissy life becoming unmanageable due to neglect and therefore I’m forced to put down sissy stuff and take care with non-sissy stuff.
I could be an outlier, but penile orgasms don’t ruin things for me, unless they’re at the end of a big binge where I made bad decisions. In fact, I tend to rely on penile orgasms in order to go to sleep without being overwhelmed with horny thoughts. I do get a refractory period but I don’t feel intense guilt, the period goes away after a short time, and regardless I’m ready to go as soon as I wake up the next morning anyways. But I have no idea if that’s most people’s experience, lol.
Other than cumming after doing something I’d regret, two other practices that tend to get me are gooning and overuse of porn. I think it’s possible that extensive gooning and porn usage may be more of an issue than the cumming itself. But it could also vary considerably from sissy to sissy.
And of course, I totally agree that neglecting everyday responsibilities is always a huge issue.
I might suggest a general self-check-in. Like, if you’ve been in sissy mode for a while just asking yourself “is everything in my life okay right now for me to continue my sissy focus or is there something I should deal with”?
That’s a good one!
Something I’m trying is to be more concerned with my general wellbeing when I’m in sissymode than when I’m in malemode. One rule is that when I get the slightest twinge I might be doing an unhealthy activity or skipping a responsibility, I immediately change my behavior.
The idea is that when I’m in malemode, I will notice how productive and healthy I was in sissymode, and have to conclude that being in sissymode is just better for me. ;)
As another one, sublimate instant-gratification sissy things for longer-term gratification sissy things. Instead of looking at porn, have a girly bath, do a mani/pedi, work on other sissy goals, and/or socialize with other sissies.
And yes, this is excellent as well!
I loved all the general well-being stuff you mentioned!! I’m trying similar things. May I ask, how do gooning and overuse of porn lead to malemode for you? Is it a dopamine crash, too much of a good thing, post-nut ‘clarity’?
May I ask, how do gooning and overuse of porn lead to malemode for you?
IMO they’re interrelated behaviors that can easily be addictive and time-consuming, and thus lead to the neglect of responsibilities that causes a crash back to malemode.
An example in my own life was when I tried chastity out for a week but didn’t stop using porn. I ended up looking at porn obsessively in every spare second, not sleeping, and being so horny I couldn’t even sleep when I tried. I’m not even sure I came, I just had to crash back to malemode out of pure necessity.
Being out-of-control horny can sound fun, but unless you’re being taken care of by a dom I don’t think it’s workable. Gooning and porn both boost horniness, and that either leads to the temptation to cum or to emotional overheat that results in lifestyle dysfunction.
I’ve been trying to avoid gooning and porn the last few weeks - while still cumming on a daily basis, just to my imagination - and I’ve managed to stay in a relaxing latently-sissy mindset without severe peaks or slumps. YMMV of course.
Really interesting! So it sounds like ‘being out of control horny’ and neglect of responsibilities are what drive us both to malemode, with post-nut reactions also affecting me. For your model-buidling, it seems we have more common in terms of psychological needs than sissy behaviours per se in what drives our cycling. Perhaps because I am more bothered by post-nut reactions, I’ve tried many times to abstain from penile stimulation. 1 week is tough. 3 weeks more so. I’m on day 29 today (further than I’ve ever got), and I feel increasingly ‘over the hump’, where I have the femme/sub/cock-attraction energy I want, but I don’t feel that desperately horny. Of course, this may turn on a dime; I don’t know, I’m in, for me, uncharted territory :P
That’s really cool! I think it’s possible once you’ve gone “over the hump” and made it a habit, it may be possible to keep at it indefinitely. After all, many people are able to stay locked in chastity long-term without issues.
I think the keys are just:
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not falling for temptations that would lead you to become “out-of-control horny”, and
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diligently fulfilling your everyday responsibilities so you don’t have to fall back into malemode, and even if you did, you wouldn’t regret being in sissymode since you didn’t mess up in any way
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