Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

  • ShaunaTheDead
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    15925 days ago

    Women, don’t marry men who won’t take your name. That’s a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won’t be the only one.

    • TheLowestStone
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      5525 days ago

      I took my wife’s name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

      • @[email protected]
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        1425 days ago

        I plan on doing the same. My dad Americanized my family’s last name, and because my girlfriend is the same ethnicity as him, I plan on taking her name to undo the damage and go back to my roots.

      • ShaunaTheDead
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        425 days ago

        I’m assuming you’re a man, and that’s great! I’m also taking my wife’s name but I’m a gay woman so it’s not as awesome lol

        • TheLowestStone
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          625 days ago

          Yes, I am a man. I do just generally think it’s awesome that you’re getting married. I remember when that wasn’t allowed in the USA.

    • @[email protected]
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      3625 days ago

      And don’t marry a man who insists you take his. That’s a wall of control he’s building around you and he won’t stop until he’s separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it’s your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

      • ShaunaTheDead
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        525 days ago

        I’ve already found my Shaun of the Dead, it’s Simon Pegg; unfortunately though, he’s taken… and I’m a gay woman. In another lifetime perhaps, Simon!

  • @[email protected]
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    8825 days ago

    There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

    1. She didn’t want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

    2. She didn’t want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

    • @[email protected]
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      1125 days ago

      My wife just didn’t want to change hers, so I changed mine instead. No need for a particular reason.

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      25 days ago

      My ex took my last name, because he had siblings with children and my family name would have died with me. It was a gift to my father that his* grandson would carry the family name forwards. And no, that wasn’t a red flag – we were married for 30 years.

    • @[email protected]
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      525 days ago
      1. Who cares

      I’ll admit when I was in my early 20s, it was a point of contention with one girl I was dating. I was young and stupid, my mom took my dad’s name, etc.

      But by 30, wiser, less prone to drama, I was solidly in the “who cares, do what makes you happy” crowd.

      My wife kept her last name. It’s easier, and less confusing for her clients and networking.

      Grow the fuck up. Stop being so needy and insecure. It’s a bad look.

  • @[email protected]
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    5125 days ago

    It’s heart warming to see Jeffrey Combs is an incredible actor with good taste in the company he keeps. It’s exciting seeing him vocally shouting down the fascists.

    • @[email protected]
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      1525 days ago

      I read the comment in his slimy “Brunt- FCA” tone the way he addresses Quark. I loved him already but seeing this just makes him so much more respectable and admirable.

      Heartwarming is a lovely way to put it.

    • @[email protected]
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      2625 days ago

      Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

      I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

      She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

      • @iknowitwheniseeit
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        725 days ago

        Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn’t involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway…

        In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

      • @[email protected]
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        425 days ago

        I’m pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

      • Norah - She/They
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        324 days ago

        This is really interesting, because in my state in Australia, this process isn’t gendered at all. The man can take the woman’s name just as easily, same with same-sex marriages.

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      1025 days ago

      I’ve known other people who do that.

      I just feel like any name change that you don’t need (i.e. you’re transitioning) is just more bother than it’s worth.

      • @[email protected]
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        1125 days ago

        Yeah, that’s what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband’s last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

  • magnetosphere
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    3325 days ago

    I think it’s safe to say that Walsh knows a lot about women maintaining “walls of separation”. Maybe even restraining orders.

    • @[email protected]
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      1125 days ago

      So is it a red flag, then, that my husband did not take my last name? And if it’s a gay couple, which one is complaining?

    • @[email protected]
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      225 days ago

      I’m more surprised that he took the time to use an accent mark. Either a copy-paste to make sure he got it right, or lots of extra time changing his keyboard back and forth.

  • BougieBirdie
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    2525 days ago

    You don’t expect Herbert West: Reanimator to be the voice of reason… yet here we are

    What a funky timeline

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      1925 days ago

      I actually had the pleasure of working with him on a motion comic project once (which sadly never got finished) and this is 100% him. He’s a very cool guy in person and this is exactly the sort of thing I would have expected him to say, although maybe not directly to Matt Walsh.

      He’s also a massive Radiohead fan. I’m not, so I mostly just sat there and listened when he gushed about them at lunch after hearing them on the radio in my car. Thankfully, the other people with us knew more about Radiohead than I did.

      He also said one of the funniest things I’ve heard a pro like him say in a work setting, talking about a movie role he was offered: “I’ll do it for $1000, but not if the script is shit.”

      • BougieBirdie
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        1225 days ago

        That last bit sounds like him. That’s how you end up with the fun roles, like the talking mould that grows on somebody’s toilet.

        • Flying SquidOPM
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          1025 days ago

          That last bit sounds like him.

          That’s what made it so funny. He’ll do pretty much anything if he likes the idea. Just pay him scale and he’s up for it. But don’t offer him $1000 and expect him to do magic with your terrible screenplay.

  • IninewCrow
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    2025 days ago

    Who cares what name anyone uses … my wife and I never got married and she’s always had her name and we never bothered changing a thing because we never cared. No one cares … not even the government.

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      1725 days ago

      my wife and I never got married

      I’m assuming you mean you never had a ceremony?

      Aren’t you automatically married by common law in Canada after a certain number of years? I seem to remember that was the case with my uncle and his wife. But he eventually had to marry her because she’s German and she couldn’t get a long-term visa so he could work in the states when he was allowed to return. He dodged the Vietnam war draft. When Clinton allowed people like him to return, he got a job at the Library of Congress. Quite ironic.

      Meanwhile, she continued to get paid for Canadian work because she was a professor at the (at the time) by-mail only Athabasca University.

      If Uncle Sam was expecting them to stick around, they didn’t. They moved back to Saskatoon after he retired. Canada treated him very well. He happened to be pursuing a folklore degree right at the time the Canadian government realized they needed folklorists to help preserve various cultures within their borders.

      Sorry for rambling. I need more sleep apparently.

      • IninewCrow
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        1625 days ago

        Yes … that’s why I say the government doesn’t care … after a couple have been together for a few years, they are more or less considered married, legally speaking. We thought of a ceremony for a while … then waited for so long that we just never think of it any more.

        I know some same sex couples that have been together for over 30 years up here, they got together years ago as ‘friends living together’ when the attitudes of same sex couples were still frowned upon. Now after all that time, they are more or less married couples and file their taxes just like every other married couple. When it comes to finances and taxation, governments and economics really don’t care about sexuality or sexual orientation, as long as you pay your taxes.

        I also know of a friend of a friend from the sixties who lived up north near Timmins who received US draft dodgers during the 70s. A couple of young professionals who eventually became high school teachers and college professors and ended up just living up here all their lives. They did a lot for people and gave a lot of their energy and expertise to people up here … also excellent folk musicians and artists … all because of some dumb war they were avoiding. There was some good that came out of those dumb wars the US was forcing their young people to die in for no reason.

        Don’t worry about rambling … I always enjoy hearing from you.

        Get more sleep … never apologize for being a Ramblin’ Man. Stay well my friend.

        • Flying SquidOPM
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          725 days ago

          It’s also crazy to me that Canada basically didn’t care about their folklore until the late 60s. And I don’t just mean indigenous cultures. That would make sense due to all the bigotry. But they also weren’t interested in things like preserving the unique culture that has developed in The Maritimes.

          I have a white Newfie friend who is now in Alberta and he’s constantly talking about how he wished people in Edmonton were more like Newfies culturally. Clearly there are distinct cultures in Canada even for white people. No one in the government thought that was worth recording either.

          Just bizarre.

          • Adderbox76
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            125 days ago

            Quebec cares. Probably a little too dogmatically in my opinion. But you’re right about east coast culture.

            Although I would say that it does have it’s own somewhat well-documented cultural artifacts in terms of music, food and drink. We certainly hear more on the prairies about Screech, Great Big Sea and kissing the fish (for example) than most other areas with the exception of Quebec.

            • Flying SquidOPM
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              225 days ago

              I was talking about back in the 60s when my uncle went to Canada.

    • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet
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      325 days ago

      Believe it or not, a lot of people care. But it’s fine that you don’t, especially if it’s working out for you.

      • Tippon
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        325 days ago

        My new headcanon is that you’re ininewcrow’s wife, and your comment is super passive aggressive

  • @[email protected]
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    My wife went double-barreled after I specifically told her I didn’t care if she changed, kept, or anything in between. I didn’t want to change my name, so why should she have to?

    Twenty years next summer.

    Edit: “double-barreled” just means hyphenated.

  • @[email protected]
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    1825 days ago

    You can’t expect a regressive to understand evolution. They are going backward faster than the rest of us are moving forward.

  • @[email protected]
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    1825 days ago

    There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work… Best case scenario it’s an annoying hassle to deal with.

    Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that’s mostly because we also share the same first name so it’s hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn’t need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

    If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

    • @[email protected]
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      1025 days ago

      If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

      ‘Why should I have to change? He’s the one who sucks!’ -Michael Bolton

    • @[email protected]
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      125 days ago

      Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.

    • @[email protected]
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      125 days ago

      It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it’s only the husband’s name on the marriage certificate.

      If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).

  • The Pantser
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    1625 days ago

    I prefer the old ways. Steve son of Bill 5th generation Help Desk support.

    • Flying SquidOPM
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      2025 days ago

      It probably even works in Brunt’s voice, because Ferengi are more progressive than Matt Walsh.

    • _NetNomad
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      325 days ago

      “Andorian women are far more aggressive than Earth females. She made a… an overture. I had a choice - charge her with assaulting a superior or… marry her for 32 years and counting.”

  • @[email protected]
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    1524 days ago

    For someone who gives this much of a shit about gender roles, you’d think they’d learn the correct forms of the word for an intended spouse.

    • shastaxc
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      123 days ago

      Most people don’t give a shit about the gendered spelling differences in loan words

  • GeminiFrenchFry
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    1425 days ago

    I almost kept my maiden, but now it’s an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo’s because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

    Sometimes, it’s really that simple. My husband didn’t care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.