My dating life has literally evaporated in the last 15 years. Not a single date or even a match. Guys, be warned, getting married totally kills your dating game.
You should totally consider dating though…
Your spouse might really enjoy it.:-D
My wife and I have been discussing this. It’s intimidating since the last time I dated was before online dating was the default. I’d like to avoid it if possible though it seems it may be difficult.
Late to discussion.
I haven’t been single since 2012. I intend to stick with my relationship until one of us dies.
If something happened (she died, or she committed an instant deal breaker breakup thing), I dunno if I’d try dating again.
I hear dating websites nowadays are all bots trying to sucker you into paying for premium access without delivering any human matches.
I think what I would probably do is continue living my best life, and if I ran into someone with whom there was mutual interest, great.
Ten years ago I was ten years younger, which changes things. I think nearly any individual will say that it was better ten years ago because they were younger and hotter and hornier and had fewer aches and pains and responsibilities.
However, I will say that Lots of straight men have become actively red pilled, repellent, and unfuckable. I can get hookups, but I want to know I’m not inadvertently participating in a maga orgasm, so they need more vetting, which a lot of guys are unwilling to do (you know, the “u tryna fuk” as an opening gambit types).
It ain’t great is what I’m saying.
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Online dating can go suck a fuck. It’s all a scam to try and get your money by convincing you all you need is to send out more likes to find a good match. The only time online dating worked for me was when I posted on a meetup subreddit 6 years ago. It didn’t work out with her but we’re still friends to this day so I call that a win.
Meeting people in person is also a pain in the ass. With needing to work all the time just to make ends meet I don’t have a lot of time to go out and socialize. I’ve always been an introvert but it’s never been this bad before. People are also so caught up in their own shit like I am that nobody even pays attention to anything from the outside. Which is totally fine, it’s how we all are. It’s just a consequence of how things are, unfortunately.
Also lot of people meet through work but I only work with dudes with my current job. This has nothing to do with the current dating scene, I just wanted to share because it might make my opinion more biased.
I think it’s really hard to get a sense of dating over time since dating changes drastically with your age and position in life.
I’ve been in a relationship for the past 15 years… So probably not the target demographic for this question?
But for what it’s worth, listening to single friends over the years, it sure sounds harder than it was back when I was dating (the online aspect of everything seems like loads of extra work).
I’m totally out of touch with dating today, but I have the opinion it’s harder to date strangers than when I last tried it 35 years ago, because there are fewer places to hang out at; less places to go; less large interactions; less concerts; less bars; less bowling alleys and fewer church events .
Where would I take a date at? Feeding pigeons together?
Honestly it’s the same old shit man. Where did you bring dates 35 years ago?
The challenge is meeting people, not finding places to take them on dates.
Lots of dancing places then. We danced a lot
There’s still plenty of dancing places if you can come to terms with being the oldest person there by a couple of decades
The dating scene looks different than I last encountered it, though I can only speak to the gay dating scene. It’s very much online initially in my area because so many places that gay dudes frequent aren’t here anymore. It’s hard to naturally meet someone and have an initial conversation to figure out if there is interest. Grindr has taken a heavy toll, it’s very much a meat market, all you can eat buffet of dudes for casual sex (casual sex is cool). Instant gratification and sorting through dudes to get more is much easier than dating. Dating is a dance which has a rhythm you must freestyle…
As I’m not a hot ticket item in this neck of the woods, my prospects are nonexistent. This is fine as I’m not going to be everyone’s cuppa; if I could move to a city with a bigger gay community, my dating prospects would be so much better.
Currently I’m not even bothering with it. It’s not worth the stress. Maybe a less socially anxious person can still enjoy it but not me.
Well yeah you’re 10 years older hahaha
Dating is dead. Women beat it to death with dating apps.
It may not be entirely on them captain_aggravated.
Yeah yeah I know, women are anatomically capable of being at fault.
I understand your argument and I sympathize to an extent but I’m afraid it is factually incorrect. Everyone has an ass that is potentially available for plowing.
Actually I seem to have fucked up there, I meant to sarcastically type “incapable” rather than “capable.”
