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This months questions are:
How did you learn that you were a sissy or enjoyed sissy things?
Always a tough question if I actually am a sissy y’know. I like some aspects of it, for sure, but I do think there are some who tread too far into misogynistic territory (“oh it’s humiliating to be a woman!!!”) which is Real Bad. But the idea of being a subby femme slut to be used by others for pleasure is what I’m here for 😅
As for the how: I think it coalesced around a few different things over the years. My love for anal led to a love for chastity in the pursuit of the elusive prostate orgasm. I’ve always loved power dynamics in sex and being a sub suits me, generally. I had the classic “girlfriend left a pair of panties here, guess I need to try them on… why am I hard?” experience that was a catalyst, though it took me a long time to accept that.
As for the queer aspect: I’ve had those thoughts since I was a teen. Part of the reason I had so much trouble coming to terms with it is that I’m not really romantically interested in men. So for a long time I was like “ah, I don’t wanna date a dude, that means I’m straight”. Luckily I eventually realized that I can want to have sex with dudes (and anyone else 👀) without dating them and now I’m a proud pansexual.
I like some aspects of it, for sure, but I do think there are some who tread too far into misogynistic territory
I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one who thinks this. To be honest, I don’t consider myself a sissy personal in large part because of how toxicly misogynistic the community at large is. I try really hard to keep my feminism hat off to make sure the sisyt spaces I’m a part of are still safe for those that may not be as comfortable with their queer identity yet. It’s tough sometimes though and it was a big reason why I chose to never participate in the reddit community.
As for the how: I think it coalesced around a few different things over the years. My love for anal led to a love for chastity in the pursuit of the elusive prostate orgasm. I’ve always loved power dynamics in sex and being a sub suits me, generally. I had the classic “girlfriend left a pair of panties here, guess I need to try them on… why am I hard?” experience that was a catalyst, though it took me a long time to accept that.
I’ve never been big on chastity on my own, but I would certainly do it with the right keyholder. I haven’t found that person though. I had actually forgotten but you reminded me that I had a similar experience with panties! I’ve always had an “I’ll try anything once” kind of personality. I had never really thought about dressing feminine, or really gender at all, most of my life but my partner was out of town one weekend and I had the idea to see how I liked wearing her panties. She’s got waaaaaat bigger hips than me but my ass still looked so good! It started me down the path of trying more feminine things though and it was less than a year before I was out for a walk in a park in full femme 😅
As for the queer aspect: I’ve had those thoughts since I was a teen. Part of the reason I had so much trouble coming to terms with it is that I’m not really romantically interested in men. So for a long time I was like “ah, I don’t wanna date a dude, that means I’m straight”. Luckily I eventually realized that I can want to have sex with dudes (and anyone else 👀) without dating them and now I’m a proud pansexul.
This was always the hardest thing to get over for me. I always described it as, if I saw a man walking down the street I will almost never look at them and find them attractive, but if that same person started flirting with me or had their cock out in front of me it would be an entirely different story. I actually had to confront a lot of internalized homophobia to eventually come to terms with my bi-side. It took a lot of effort, but I’m glad I put that effort in.
Thank you for sharing your experiences KK ☺️💜
We’re definitely in similar boats!! Always appreciate your perspective ❤️
But yeah, hard to take the feminist hat off 😅 That’s a big part of why I try to mostly post positive stuff when it comes to captions or anything. And we haven’t even touched on the issues of racism that pervade multiple kinks, including some sissy stuff…
I somehow stumbled upon the now defunct sissy girl sanctuary, started crossdressing and never looked back. Whoever ran that site really liked the sleep Hypno with the Disney deer’s name.
Looking forward to getting dolled up tomorrow night for a queer gatho at a mate’s 💖
The Bambi audio files are pretty popular across the board. There’s so many of them that I think it’s most people’s first exposure to the sissy hypno genre. They were for me.
Looking forward to getting dolled up tomorrow night for a queer gatho at a mate’s 💖
Hope you had a fun time! 💜
I was never overtly attracted to men but I always thought about cocks when I was horny. I was always a big enjoyer of anal play so wanting to be fucked wasn’t much of a stretch(no pun intended) for me. I went through a phase where I liked listening to erotic hypnosis porn where someone trys to relax and then arouse you. I’m sure you can guess that I learned that sissy hypnos existed doing this and I found that I really liked them. They were the perfect thing to watch while I was toying myself! The rest is history from there 😁 It did set me down the path of eventually accepting my bisexuality though!
Problems or concerns: I’ve had a hard time getting nose jewelry I like in my nose. After much trial and error, I think I’ve landed on short and longer-term solutions. The longer-term solution requires buying some tools (threadless taper, hemostat(s)) so that I can change my jewelry at home. Right now I have some ugly thing in my nose that’s keeping the fistula open.
Brag: I bought a short sleeve button-up shirt made of linen yesterday. It will be cool for summer. It’s not that baggy but it conceals a bralette. This was a win because I want shirts that I can secretly wear bralettes under but I don’t want to feel bulky or too hot during the summer.
I recommend chastity cages for interested sissies who’ve never tried them. You might associate the cage with prevention of sexual activity for days or weeks. However, chastity cages can be a hot precursor to masturbation or sex - feeling like you don’t have a penis and doing some anal masturbation maybe. They can also be used to leverage some domming from your partner; e.g., she decides when it’s time to unlock you for sex.
My path to sissyhood consisted of noting some feminine and/or submissive and sexy things that I really liked. It would be fair to say that I had whaletail (i.e., when a thong rides up), nail polish, and spanking fetishes. In fact, there was a forum dedicated to women whaletails back in the day. Eventually I realized that these things that I found hot on women I also found hot doing myself. So I started wearing thongs and painting my nails.
I had a pretty powerful insight when I realized that I’d rather paint my fingernails than shave my face/beard prior to a hookup - if it were and A vs B choice. And I think this is because I can see my painted fingernails whereas other people see my face. It also revealed to me a basic desire to feel feminine, at least in my own head.
For me, I think the sissy fetish can be a good way of learning about one’s feminine urges. But the community can be kind of unthinking and engagement in it can be self-limiting. I see myself having both transfeminine gender and sissy kink needs. I try to express much of my feminine urges through transfeminine gender expression (e.g., earrings, long hair, painted fingernails), because I think it’s psychologically healthier for me if/when I can reveal this part of myself to others and feel validated for who I am. If I’m compulsively watching porn and anal masturbating, meanwhile I haven’t washed my hair or left the house in a few days, that’s sign to me that my sissy kinks are doing too much of the heavy lifting. I then try to course correct by putting a little more energy into transfeminine gender expression.
Piercings aren’t my cup of tea so I’ve always been afraid of considering a nose piercing. I think bellybutton piercings are super fucking cute, but I don’t think one would look good one me 🫤
I fucking love linen in the summer! It’s so comfortable. I have a go-to baggy linen shirt and booty shorts outfit that I wear all the time. I’m glad you found yourself over here with us linen converts! 😁
Eventually I realized that these things that I found hot on women I also found hot doing myself.
I actually went through a similar awakening myself. A lot of the things that I found sexy on other women I learned over time that I also found sexy on myself. That’s been an interesting part of the journey for me! 💕
But the community can be kind of unthinking and engagement in it can be self-limiting.
I also feel the same. Most communities seem to devolve into a weird echo chamber of encouragement. The reddit card mmunities were tough to be a part because there was very little conversation and it was all mindless (and honestly unhealthy) egging on.
Linen gang represent >.<!! Belly button piercings are one of the easiest to heal and maintain though ;). Thanks for the post and getting some discussion going 😘
I’m sure they are! But I don’t think it would look very good on me 🤷
You’re welcome and I’m glad everyone’s liking the change. If you have any suggestions to spruce the place up a bit further I’d happily hear them as well!
Bisexuality still seems to be at the kink phase for OP. I was there a few years ago when I was dating cis women. I’ve always been a bottom, but I used to be much more masculine-presenting. The gendering of top/bottom roles is too heteronormative to me, but I am into femboys and drag queens… idk
Recently my bf explained to me that I’m a brat, but he was drunk and he also said he was thinking about transitioning so I’m not sure if he/they is a brat/sissy tamer or just someone who plays that way when they’re in a certain mood.
Bisexuality still seems to be at the kink phase for OP.
What makes you say that?
I think I misread your comment post. You said at the end that you have now accepted your bisexuality, but I get the feeling your sissy kink stems from wanting to get fucked by guys before you were out, but I’m not trying psychoanalyze you or anything.
It’s not exactly easy to confront your sexuality while also being in a committed long-term relationship. I met my partner when I was 19.
That would change things. I didn’t know, but I’m glad you’ve found yourself and your partner is ok with it. :)
No worries, there’s no way you could have known! But, yes, she’s fine with me being who I am and I’m open about my sexuality with her. Thank you ☺️