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This months questions are:
Porn isn’t reality, but it does set expectations for sex. What was one Sissy thing that you found very different in real life compared to porn or hypnos?
It’s ridiculous that my ass isnt always magically clean 🙄
Oh my God, I know! I like my genitals, but I would consider bottom surgery purely on the basis of not needing to spend an hour and a fucking half cleaning and getting ready just to get fucked!
You’d just need to spend an hour dilating every day for the first 3 months 😉
Like many of you here, I’m very submissive. I like making someone else feel good. I also have a bit of a cum fetish and the thought of someone pumping their cum onto or into me is a huge turn on.
For me, a big expectation vs reality thing was that most guys just don’t make enjoying cum a satisfying experience. They cum too quickly to really work up to a big satisfying orgasm. Also, maybe it’s just because of where I live, but it’s hard to find guys that want to take charge. I like to be told what to do 🥺
I’m sure there are people here who would take charge, but you really have to beg for it. 😈 My current partner (also trans) wants me to top them and also boymode, which is very different for me. I haven’t had that kind of dynamic in 10 years (unless you count a regrettable encounter with a loser I met on an app once). I physically can’t shoot big loads, but the psychological element should be the same if it’s a service top situation.
Sorry, I thought I had responded to you already!
and also boymode
😬😬😬 Topping is fine, but that’s some rp I can’t get behind. I hope it’s not too weird of an experience for you or causes any dysphoria.
I physically can’t shoot big loads, but the psychological element should be the same if it’s a service top situation.
I’m not on hormones(nor do I intend to start), but I know you are. Is not cumming much a side effect of them? And too many people don’t know the difference between service top and passive top 😂 Usually they just don’t want to put any effort in and I’ve just come to accept that words don’t mean anything anymore!
Don’t worry about it, I love hearing from you whenever you’re in post-responding mode. Thanks for engaging. :)
Thank you for empathizing with my weird rp situation. There are a couple of elements to it for me:
- The day I’m supposed to meet them, I boymode from the moment I get up so I can get used to it. It isn’t bad since other trans people I see around recognize me and know what I’m doing. I end up looking like a very effeminate man dressed as a trucker, almost a butch lesbian vibe. That’s the best I can do, and it’s actually kind of gender-affirming that I fail at masculinity so hard. As long as I don’t have to change my body for that gender presentation (beyond letting my arm and leg hair grow a bit) and as long as it’s just two days out of the week at most, it’s a worthy sacrifice for me. It does cause me a little stress to think about, like I’m slipping irreversibly into manhood, but when it’s over I’m back to my old self.
- The sex is a little odd since I can’t top very well, and my partner certainly doesn’t want to top. We’ve never had sex with our clothes on, but I put my hair in a bun and try to be as dominant as I can. Last time, all I did was give them a blowjob and finger them a bit. Hopefully we’ll have more energy next time. I’m desperate for sex, so anything is better than nothing.
As for hormones, not cumming much is absolutely a side effect of full MTF hormone therapy, in my case E and spiro. There are still orgasms, but not significant ejaculations. If you did monotherapy or just E + finasteride or some other DHT blocker, it might be different. You might think of the latter cases as enby hormones, since there would probably still be significant levels of T, so your dick would probably work the same.
I don’t need to top, but with this partner maybe I’m a passive top. 😂 I do it for them, and I get a little lethargic in that role, maybe due to trauma or something else. I hate bashing the people I’m with, and they really are a nice person, but I always prefer to be the little one. 🥺 It’s weird when fem AMAB people try to help me live some unclaimed manhood or whatever. Where were you when I was 22? When I was 16? I was abstinent for 7 or 8 years because nobody wanted me to top in the aggressive, BDSM-informed way that I see as ideal. And there was that that one guy who wanted me to “rape” him. Like bro, I’m barely hard, and you’ve never bottomed before. I swear, the people I date are the most random and often ill-fitting partners imaginable, and I’m so socially awkward/desperate that I will accept them just because.
Even though you say it’s okay in the end, it still sounds like your situation is causing you quite a bit a dysphoria. Just make sure you’re advocating for yourself in the process. I get being touch-starved, but you also don’t want to cause yourself any damage in the process 🙂
I’ll keep that in mind regarding the hormones. Although having a vagina would be super neat and way easier, I like my genitals and don’t want to change them. I’ve definitely considered it just for breast growth and nicer hips though lol.
Life has a weird way of doing that to you and sexuality is weird. It’s tough to find the right people when you don’t know what you’re looking for and being a confused kid sure as fuck makes it tough. I would have loved to find someone to encourage me when I was younger, but I was never going to get over my shame to go find them. Youth is wasted on the young, or so they say.
I hope you get to date people that fit with you better soon ❤️
Aww thanks. Honestly I was just venting. I have a terrible habit of looking for problems in a relationship, and I dumped my bf because of perceived problems. I think anyone can make a relationship work, I’m just complaining about problems with sex.
Anal. Learnt the hard way that i’m not so stretchable as i tought. Almost 2 years to fit a medium sized plug
Definitely agreed! It took me a lot of practice to get anywhere near comfortable with another person, too. I tensed up so much when another person was involved. I haven’t done it with anyone other than a couple romantic partners yet though, so not sure how it’ll go once we meet the right person…
I think everyone has to come to that realization eventually! Sometimes when you’re in the moment you don’t even realize you might be taking a bit more than you can handle. Just make sure you’re in the habit of warming things up beforehand and you’ll be at your target size(and pleasure) in no time! 💜