Why do you love to hurt someone?
I’m a sub to my wife. When she hurts me, it gives her a satisfying sense of control. She’s very empathetic and can see my desire and pain, and me fighting through the pain to ask more.
If I had to sum up the goal of BDSM: intimacy.
Just as sharing a sexual experience is intimate, so is sharing a painful one.
Of course, it’s not for everyone and it’s not universal.
I don’t. I have testicles. I’ve never been kicked in the balls. I want to know what being kicked in the balls that hard feels like. I want a woman to kick me in the balls that hard.
I mean, more power to you. As someone who took a line drive as an early teen, you probably don’t. It drags and lasts. Vomiting. Fucked. Can’t imagine it as an adult.
Fwiw: I’m imagining that if I ever do get kicked as hard as I would like to be, that being the most severe pain I’ve ever felt in my life, wouldn’t be at all out of the question.