You might find something like that in the Wheel of Time books. It’s been a long time since I read them, but there’s a lot of very strong women in those books and only a few of them have a hard time being gentle and compassionate when the situation allows.

A judge has already shot it down. It’s probably not going anywhere.

Same as OP. Yarvinists must rot, but there I go using their stuff again anyway.

Steak and cheese sub. Yeah, you can get one in a lot of places, but I haven’t had a good one outside of New England.

Guys are always afraid of being gay. Dassit mane. But also, I’m not sure how consistently true the premise of the question is. Gay stuff in threesomes probably also gets talked about less when it happens.