You’re a crab in a bucket, pulling at other crabs to ensure they’re treated poorly because someone else is rather than encouraging others to treat each other well.

By pretending, or worse, believing that the best way to a better society is by making things worse for certain groups, you have more in common with misogynists than anyone else.

Your attitude is used as ammunition by the far right to convince impressionable people that feminists are inherently hostile and unreasonable, and if women are elevated in society, they will immediately use any gained power to attack men.