i’m definitely starting to like men more again. while i wouldn’t mind dating a woman, i found them pretty, and would probably say yes if they asked me out, what if i’m really just a straight woman who only likes men?? :,)

(im aware preference can be fluid, i just wonder if i really do like women)

  • Zgierwoj@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Despite me having the very analogical experience (but as a man) I’m gonna say - who really cares? It’s like, uh… Do you still like pizza if you haven’t felt like having it in months? Maybe you don’t but you will go back to liking it in the future? Labels are weird… I genuinely want to consider myself queer cuz I vibe better with them queers, but them gay folks I know still gonna spend time with me whether I suck cock or not, dunno if you have it the same or completely different

  • GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.todayEnglish
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    6 days ago

    Forget the label. Don’t even worry about what you are or might be. Just don’t ‘push through’ things you’re uncomfortable with. If someone, pretty woman or dashing dude, asks you out, just ask yourself what you want to do right then and there. If you’re comfortable and want to see them again, do it, and if you aren’t comfortable and don’t want to see them again, don’t do it.

  • ImadethisEnglish
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    6 days ago

    The great thing about being bi (and all the flavors of it, which are way beyond me and my small brain), is ultimately that I don’t have to care what I am. I just care about the person I’m looking at. Am I interested in their company, their genitals, or just to hang out? Then I go from there.

    I’m not saying that you should not consider who you are, but your physical reality is going to be a better guide than anxiety driven by doubts. It might just be that you haven’t met the right one. I know that my preferences range wildly between dudes and dudettes… and those preferences are not at all mainstream. If I had never met, in person, the partner who made me realize I wasn’t just into one gender, I would never have known because society tends to present a sort of master image of what is attractive, and that would never have made me look twice.