Let’s pretend that speaking openly about sex and sexuality is not, for most of the people and time, a taboo.
If you had a friend or an acquaintance ask you to suggest some kink they could explore a bit, as safely as possible, to just breathe some fresh air into their sex life, what would it be?
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Dress up. Or maybe spanking. Or light ass play.
But like, read up on shit first. A lot of people tried stuff when they were younger and will never do it again because they did it wrong (aka most women and anal)
I think it would depend on who exactly is asking. My little christian friend, who probably thinks blowjobs are just the naughtiest thing out there, might get the suggestion of some very mild kinks, like a blindfold in the bedroom or getting one of those dice games where you have an action die and a body part die. My more ‘experienced’ friends? I think I’d recommend some breath play, to breathe that fresh air in, or some light pain/stimulus/deprivation. Remote control toys that are controlled by the partner during the day are always good as well, especially if it’s not (because they’re new and we’re being safe about this) something that could get them in trouble.
Well, I’m biased, but I suggest fisting…
From you, I’d expect an entire master class to introduce the person to the concept.
I’m pretty good at it, I’ve introduced a few women to it over the years
Hence my previous statement.
I would suggest they go to a play party, or just read more.
Loads of things inspire lust! Find that kernel, explore it in fantasy and use that openness/non-taboo to express what it is and/or how you’d like to explore it.
Anything can be a fun kink: silk ties, mirrors, feeding/getting fed, anonymous sex, fucking on the bonnet/hood of a vintage car on a countryside drive just before rain in early autumn, vanilla-as-kink, etc.
That’s the lovely thing about kinks, it’s just about being curious and open to explore what fancy comes to you. Some are keepers, some are best as fantasies, some aren’t logistically feasible, some aren’t timed right and some you just get bored of after a while.
Vanilla as kink? What’s that?
Done on the car hood and got it dented. Do not recommend. But it may have been a case of overenthusiasm.
Vanilla-as-kink is just what it sounds like: fetishising normative sex.
I’m not partaking myself, but I’d be willing to use it as part of a sadism play.
“I’m gonna tie you up and tease you within an inch of your life, and when you’re begging, screaming for more I’ll untie you and caress you softly… I’m going to kiss you twice, I’m going to penetrate you and cum inside you in just a couple thrusts, leaving you like that, utterly dissatisfied, and fall asleep next to you while you stew in your frustrations…”
“What are you gonna do to me tonight? I’m going to have us share a bottle of wine, grope you in front of the TV, I’m gonna drag you to the bedroom and fuck you, missionary style, with a semi stiff penis. You’re gonna smell the wine on my breath, my clumsy movements and flop under my mechanical thrusting, lulled by my meek grunts until I give up and fall down beside you, turning my back to you and fall asleep… snoring loudly.”
Or whatever vanilla folks do, I might’ve lost touch. There seems to be a lot of pent up frustration in those turning to the kinkier side though.
Vanilla means Conventional sex most likely.
I know. Hence my surprise to make it a kink.
I would suggest: Getting eaten out.
I would not suggest: vore. Seriously, it’s an endless blsckhole that cannot be understood or satisfied.
Vore is one those that I simply don’t understand. And I like to eat.
I would say gooning. It’s basically masturbating without cumming as long as possible. The goal is to stay in the pleasure as long as possible, without restrictions, and just enjoy it. I usually end up being unable to stop myself from cumming which is such a hot fucking way to cum. It’s something I did as a teenager, way before I ever heard the word, and I’ve recently rediscovered it. I like it a lot because the amount of pleasure you get is way higher than just going straight to cumming. I’ve started to explore doing it with a partner during sex and mmmm does that feel fucking good. Not masturbating during sex but just fucking as long as possible and really enjoying the moment and stretching it out. It feels like the right way to fuck and masturbate.
